I was only dumped a few days ago by text. One minute I'm over it, the next I'm in tears again. I just want myself pity to end. Because it was done by text, it hasn't set in complete that were not together. I just want to pull him aside and get him to talk to me. But I don't think he will. I've just to accept the short explanation that I was given, but I'm finding it hard. That he thought he was ready for a relationship, but he was wrong. He misses the single life. But then I just think what does that say about me, he didn't like me enough to not miss the single life. I just want to get over him as he's not worth my tears. Its just trying to build up myself confidence again and feeling good about myself on my own. Any ideas?

How long were you with him for? Is he quite young? Sounds like you are better off without him.

You will only gzt over it by giving it time and allowing yourself to grieve and wallow in self-pity for a while

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Originally Posted by wap

how long were you with him for? is he quite young? Sounds like you are better off without him.

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I agree, he sounds young as this is quite an immature thing to do. Being rejected hurts enough without this being done via a text message. I am a firm believer that when you want to finish it, you should have the decency to do it face to face.

He does not sound like a good candidate for a mature, loving relationship and you are probably better off without him anyway. It may not seem like it now, but things do improve with time.

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Its just trying to build up myself confidence again and feeling good about myself on my own. Any ideas?

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Why take his immaturity and shortcoming as a reflection of you, no way. Stop the crying and get back to doing the things you enjoy with the people you enjoy them with. Life is not over and because he lost out you won. Your free to look around again.

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Originally Posted by Dani171986

I was only dumped a few days ago by text. One minute im over it, the next im in tears again. I just want my self pity to end. Because it was done by text, it hasnt set in complete that were not together. I just want to pull him aside and get him to talk to me. But I dont think he will. I've just to accept the short explanation that i was given, but im finding it hard. That he thought he was ready for a relationship, but he was wrong. He misses the single life. But then i just think what does that say about me, he didnt like me enough to not miss the single life. I just want to get over him as hes not worth my tears. Its just trying to build up my self confidence again and feeling good about myself on my own. Any ideas?

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Ur going to fill bad for a while, but it is still all right for you to still have fillings for him.

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Originally Posted by Dani171986

I was only dumped a few days ago by text. One minute im over it, the next im in tears again. I just want my self pity to end. Because it was done by text, it hasnt set in complete that were not together. I just want to pull him aside and get him to talk to me. But I dont think he will. I've just to accept the short explanation that i was given, but im finding it hard. That he thought he was ready for a relationship, but he was wrong. He misses the single life. But then i just think what does that say about me, he didnt like me enough to not miss the single life. I just want to get over him as hes not worth my tears. Its just trying to build up my self confidence again and feeling good about myself on my own. Any ideas?

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Definitely keep as busy as you can. Turn to your friends, take a new class, go out of town. Eventually you will start to feel good about doing everything for yourself! I think it's a guy thing to all of a sudden feel as though they want something else... just be happy he told you before you got hurt via cheating or anything else. Have you seen the movie the Holiday w/ Cameron Diaz? Watch it it will make you feel like there's a light at the end of the tunnel!

Hey this is the sure way to get over a guy. If you really want to forget him, then find someone new and take that relationship slow at first. Don't move in with him and only go on dates. This will eventually help you get over him

Thanks everyone.
I'm in a good mood today, I'm not sad anymore as I decided that he's not worth it. I am keeping myself busy. Just finding things todo. I'm going shoppong tomorrow with my mates, get a bit of a new wardrobe. Retail therapy is always a good idea.

Hey,

*a million hugs* I'm so sorry that you are going through this... = (

my ex and I broke up for pretty much the same reason. We were happy and one moment he suddenly tells me that he's not sure he wants long term relationships, and just wants to date around to get more "experience"... and that's after us being together for a year and a half. It was my first relationship so a first break up is hard to handle.. and I'm still feeling it right now even after three months. But it really will get better.

and not talking to him will help. Sometimes I broke the no contact rule.. and now I just end up not able to be friends with him anymore as I can't not be bitter about the whole thing. I know you are a strong person and can make it through this. Hang in there! It's hard but just try to take it a day at a time.

I really know how you feel.. I myself am trying to get my confidence back as well... and it's hard work, but life will soon turn around for you.

Stay strong!! =D We all care about you.

Love,

Katie