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  • Apr 25, 2011, 08:41 PM
    hellokitty2
    Jelousy
    I am 20 years old and live with my boyfriend he is 28 and we love each other very much. He has a 6 yr old daughter that lives with her grandmother, and we go visit her everyday and
    Well my boyfriend lives with me and my little brother and a roommate well the problem here is I have had Many
    Boyfriends in the past 2 have cheated and
    I have experienced it on a boyfriend I lost a baby with I loved him very much and he left me
    For another girl in the
    Relationship he was the abusively jeolous person and would made me swear to god I would go to sleep he was so jeolous super and well I'm very jelous with this boyfriend and we have been together foe 2 years now and in still crazy jeoulous even if he has a soccer game or if we go to the park and he looks at a 30 yr old with a nice body anything I'm so jeolous what can
    I do. All I
    Do is cry in
    My room when he's not here of madness that he went to a soccer game or anything.also I gained over 40'pounds since I got with him and he always tells me
    I'm fat and that I don't even have kids that I need to loose weight :( maybe that's the reason
  • Apr 25, 2011, 08:47 PM
    mudweiser

    Well he's calling you fat so that's your insecurity right there in which can trigger the ugly jealousy. It doesn't help either that you're still not over your last boyfriend (or at least it seems like it).

    What you can do:
    1) Leave the relationship-- clearly sounds bad
    2a) Talk to your boyfriend, tell him to stop calling you fat- let him know how it hurts.
    2b) Start going to couple's counselling and work on the issues the both of you have, him with his name calling and you with your insecurities.

    And last but not least-- if the weight is bothering you then lose it! Not for him, but for you!

    If this was me I would leave the relationship, get a place of my own, work-out, get a better job, go to school--- just work on my life y'know. You have no kids, so no "real" responsibility there-- so there is no point in wasting any more time dating these losers.

    You said you've had many boyfriends, that to me doesn't sound good. You're only 20-- it's time to be single and enjoy life, not time to be in your room crying.
  • Apr 25, 2011, 08:54 PM
    hellokitty2
    Wow that made me feel so much better. Your right it's just I don't have the guts to leave him
    Because I have a home with him I feel bad leaving him I don't know why I love
    Him a lot but he gets mad really easy. And well we love doing things together
    And about school and all that stuff that's sounds so good too I will put that in mind.
    So true thank you ;)

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