I am just wondering if I am the only one, which I am sure I am nor, but would like some input...

I work ten hours a day, four days a week and have to come home to a wife who is always sitting watching TV. She never goes outside and prefers being on computer or glued to television. I would like to come home to a clean house not to one where nothing gets done the whole time I am gone. I literally come home, start laundry, make bed, fold clothes, pick up after kids, and clean the house. I don't understand how you can sit at home and do nothing, and then she gets angry when I ask to go on walk. She yells at me if I ask her to help out. It seems that she is very angry, I think it could be like a cabin fever. She's addicted to technology and it is hurting our marriage. If anyone has thoughts, answers or opinions it would be greatly appreciated.

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Originally Posted by BillyBoyg

I am just wondering if I am the only one, which I am sure I am nor, but would like some input...

I work ten hours a day, four days a week and have to come home to a wife who is always sitting watching tv. She never goes outside and prefers being on computer or glued to television. I would like to come home to a clean house not to one where nothing gets done the whole time I am gone. I literally come home, start laundry, make bed, fold clothes, pick up after kids, and clean the house. I don't understand how you can sit at home and do nothing, and then she gets angry when I ask to go on walk. She yells at me if I ask her to help out. It seems that she is very angry, I think it could be like a cabin fever. She's addicted to technology and it is hurting our marriage. If anyone has thoughts, answers or opinions it would be greatly appreciated.

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I'm going to ask the obvious question here; have you spoken to your wife about this? If so what did she say?


Personally I don't think you're asking much!

I agree with Muddy, it's time to sit down and talk to her about this.

Keep in mind that there's a right way and a wrong way to talk things out. Go into the conversation calm, rational, and not angry. Don't accuse, just sit her down and calmly discuss what's on your mind.

You may start with:

"Honey, I would like us to spend more time together. I work so many hours, and then spend so much time cleaning and taking care of the house. If you did some of these things while I'm gone we could do more together as a family".

Something like that.

Don't accuse, discuss.

If that fails, I'd personally cancel the internet, the cable, and tell her that she can get a job to pay for them if they mean that much to her. But that's a very aggressive stance to take. It may not end well.

Thanks, have attempted to talk to her but ends in anger. So will try new approach next time. Thanks.

I have a feeling that she has some deeper unhappiness that she may not even be aware of.
I went through something like she did, staying home and playing on the computer all day (the internet existed but not the web, so mainly games), working only sporadically, while my husband spent 7 long days a week at his computer job. I won't go into all the reasons I was the way I was.

I'm not so sure that laziness is really just that; there's usually something else going on.