Comment on kcomissiong's post
Hell no... I'm not looking for ways to hurt him! In fact, in the 8 odd yrs we've been together, I've always respected and been loyal to him which is a lot more than I can say for other relationships I've seen!
I just know that this will not continue forever and that I should tell him to move on for his own happiness but I know it will devastate him.
Comment on talaniman's post
If I didn't think he would be hurt... I wouldn't be here asking this question! Didn't come here for your sarcastic remarks talaniman! How many people do you know in a sex-less relationship, stays faithful for 8yrs?
Well, I've done that and just so you would know... it's him I'm thinking about... Not me! I'm an attractive, professional woman (in my job) who has my own home etc. I'm no fool.. so please don't make me out to be one... I'm simply asking the people here who may have experienced this kind of thing; who may have been faced with having to hurt someone they really care about but not in a sexual relationship: how do you do this?
And just so you would know talaniman... I had been prepared to stay with him as long as he is happy as opposed to seeing him broken. I just don't know if I'm doing the right thing!