My Fiance' has a Kidney disease currently, and due to the medications ED has become a concern. He asked the Dr. and got an RX for Viagria. Well, I make the strawberries(in secret) and he takes his pill and I go to join him in bed and the response is "What are those? Chocolate covered terds?" I said no they are chocolate coverd strawberries, have you had them before? He sayd no and I give him one, which he wolfs down, then he proceeds to watch the TV while I lay there naked strawberries in hand waiting! Now all day long there had been some grabassing and flirting so it was not just an out of the blue thing to either one of us

You didn't provide any mystery, any teasing allure, any veiled sexiness.

If it is this way now, it would be this way married to him. He has gotten use to you and what he wants matters more than anything you suggest. It is a matter of control for him. The ED is just an excuse. I been through this.Look for someone who appreciates what you have to offer.

Viagra does not make someone want sex. It makes it possible for them to have sex.

What are the effects of the kidney disease itself? Is he in pain? Does it cause him to tire easily? Besides possible ED, what other side-effects do his medications have?

Did he take Viagra or did you assume that he did because you thought you both were in the mood?

You need to communicate with him. Talk to him about what happened and figure out how to keep mis-communications like this from happening in the future. If you let this turn into resentment, the frustration and anger will only damage the relationship.

If you plan on getting married, this is a good test of how well you work through a problem as a couple.