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  • Apr 22, 2011, 07:58 PM
    melissa7294
    I got pregnant, I want abortion, and my boyfriends not paying for it
    I just had sex, and my boyfriend thought we were having sex from the back
    I'm on my period
    When he took out his penis it was blood covered and my vagina was bleeding badly
    He ejaculated ( put his sperm ) in my vagina and I don't know what to do now
    He's mad at me and screaming at me and telling me he's not going to pay a penny because I should have used condoms in the first place and that we should not have sex when I am on my period.
    He dropped me off at my house and wanted to slap me.
    What pills can I take
    What can I do
    Who can I talk to
    I'm going to commit suicide if this will take me to telling my parents, or if anyone finds out.
  • Apr 22, 2011, 08:07 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    First how do you know you are pregnant, Did you take a pregnancy test ? While it can happen from the first time, often it may take months of having sex to get pegnant.

    Next you had sex ( was it the first time ?) of course there is blood plus it was on your period.

    Next so you find out he was a jerk , he knew he did not have a condom, he knew it all but he wanted to also.

    So you know that he just wanted what he wanted and now has no idea about it.

    And no committing suicide, you would rather your parents know you are dead, than just pregnant, talk about silly and no sense at all.

    You need to back up, perhaps talk to a school couselor, or nurse about optoins.
  • Apr 22, 2011, 09:21 PM
    Alty

    Is this the same guy that required that you prove your love to him by losing your virginity to him?

    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/...im-565323.html

    I want to know how you know you're pregnant. That's what your title says, that you got pregnant and he won't pay for an abortion.

    To me it sounds like you just had sex, had it on your period, didn't use protection, but you don't yet know whether you're pregnant.

    Makes you wish you'd followed our advice and not had sex, doesn't it?

    The only thing you can do now is wait and see what happens. If you miss your next period, test for pregnancy.

    If you're pregnant, go from there. Don't put the buggy before the horse though. Let's see if you're pregnant before you start worrying about paying for an abortion.

    Last but not least, dump this guy and then keep your legs crossed until you're old enough to be a mom.
  • Apr 22, 2011, 09:51 PM
    jenniepepsi

    It is YOUR choice to get an abortion or not. Not his choice at all. And do NOT let him blame you for not having a condom. It is HIS penis and HIS responsibility.

    While you do not have to tell your parents as you can go to any planned parenthood and get an abortion and birth control for yourself, I urge you to talk to them. Suicide is never ever the answer.

    And please quit dating this boy. He is on the verge (if not already there) of abuse and it needs to stop. Get away from him before it gets worse.

    And you do not need to panic about pregnancy. While it is possible you are pregnant it is rare to get prenant ON your period as you *USUALLY* ovulate roughly about 10-14 days after your period.

    Good luck, please come back and keep us updated
  • Apr 22, 2011, 11:09 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    Agreed, he does not have to "pay for it" it is your choice and your bill.
  • Apr 22, 2011, 11:13 PM
    melissa7294
    Yes, unfortunately it is the same guy
    I only told my best friend. She's driving me nuts to break up with him
    Yes we had sex today and I am not possitive if I am or am not pregnant
    I am on my period , but I washed my vagina soooo much I feel like I'm not on my period anymore
    He did not know I put it in my vagina
    It was not my first time having sex , but he was the first guy to have sex with
    How much possibility is there to be pregnant?
    When we were done and he realized what happened, I went to the bathroom and washed myself as much as I could
    Should I buy an abortion pill?
    Or is there any point ot going to a doctor or is it too soon?
    Maybe a urine test ?
    Ineeed help :(
    I'm insanely stressed and dizzy
  • Apr 22, 2011, 11:16 PM
    J_9

    Okay, before you decide on abortion you have to be sure you are even pregnant.

    You say you "just" had sex. Have you taken a pregnancy test yet?
  • Apr 22, 2011, 11:21 PM
    jenniepepsi

    OK I would like to know how old you are. You sound VERY young and NOT ready to be having sex
  • Apr 22, 2011, 11:28 PM
    Alty

    If you had sex today, there's no way for anyone, even the best doctor in the world, to tell you if you're pregnant yet. Do you know how pregnancy works? It's time for you to learn how your body works before you play around with it.

    http://www.google.ca/url?sa=t&source...3G8Dlg&cad=rja

    You can get the morning after pill.

    Chances of you getting pregnant while on your period are very slim, but not nonexistent. Fact is, even if you take the morning after pill, you'll still have to wait until your next period to see if you're pregnant. The morning after pill doesn't always work.

    Washing yourself isn't going to do anything other then make yourself clean. It won't get rid of the sperm that's already inside of you.

    Get the morning after pill, follow the directions exactly, then hope that all of this worry is for nothing, and learn from this mistake.

    Most of all, break up with this guy. He's a jerk.

    No more sex until you're old enough to realize what the consequences are.
  • Apr 22, 2011, 11:39 PM
    melissa7294
    I'm 17
    And how much are morning after pills ?
    Are they legal in canada?
  • Apr 22, 2011, 11:45 PM
    J_9
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by melissa7294 View Post
    im insanely stressed and dizzy

    You're dizzy because you are stressed. Not because you are pregnant.

    Do you know how pregnancy happens?

    Even if you had sex yesterday you would not be pregnant. It takes as long as 5 days for the sperm to reach the egg in the fallopian tube, then another 5 days for the fertilized egg to travel back down to the uterus where it implants.

    If you are on your period, it's possible that you are able to get pregnant, but very very unlikely. To be on the safe side, get the morning after pill and take it within the 72 hour time limit.

    Melissa, if you are not financially ready to be a mother, stop having sex, or at least use protection. Your boyfriend has the penis, he uses the condom, you don't. If he doesn't have a condom, keep your pants on!

    Also, this slime ball seems very aggressive, boardering on abusive. Time to move on to someone who will actually respect you.

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