So me and my girlfriend dated for 8 months now and at first everything was great; like how every relationship starts. Even from the start although it was great we had some misunderstandings; but now it just seems ridiculous to even get upset, mad, or even argue about the littlest things. She gets upset at me for not replying her text messages fast enough, she gets upset because I forgot to tell her I'm home after dropping her off to work, she gets upset that I play video games. She even got mad when I was in FL getting my education and trying to find a job. She even got mad when I decide I want to hang out with my cousins that I haven't seen for 5 months. Like I do everything for her no question about it, take her to work, tell her I love her, make her breakfast, lunch, dinner, everything. One time she even told me that she is clingy, needs attention, and jealous. I only really get a chance to do the things I want to do such as play a little bit of video games with my friends or even go to my friends house when she is either at work or goes homes Tuesday and even yet I get constant text messages. She does not accuse me of cheating which I absolutely do not do at all. But now I just feel like all these argument over these little things and she brings on other things that isn't irrelevant to the topic is starting to really get to me. I feel like I have no space, no freedom, and can't breathe. I love her and I want to make things happen with her but I feel like all these little stuff will get us nowhere. What should I do?

Talk to her and tell her that she's making you feel very uncomfortable.

It seems you're 'not allowed' a life and that's an impossible situation.

If she's got low selfesteem and insecurity issues,maybe she should see a therapist.

Tell her to get her own bloody lunch and breakfast for a start.

Are you serious?

I want one of you too. My own personal slave that'll do what I want when I want AND jump when I say so, how dare you not ask how high...

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I love her and I want to make things happen with her but I feel like all these little stuff will get us nowhere.

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Ahahaha tell her straight up that she needs to grow up and start acting her age. You're not her mum or her dad.. time she started doing things for herself. Start sticking up for yourself and see how long she sticks around for...

Sometimes when we want things to work so bad we ignore the fact that we go way overboard and let them run all over us.

Just be honest with her about your own feelings when you think she has crossed the boundaries of good behavior, and it makes you feel uncomfortable when she is being unfair.

Just because she gave you fair warning about the way she is, doesn't mean you have to swallow her crap to keep her. For sure if you both cannot make adjustments through honest communications, you won't last long any way, so say what you mean, and mean what you say, and be as honest as she was with you.

If neither of you is willing to make changes to get along and have fun and be happy, what's the point? Doesn't really matter what you want to happen with her at that point, because it never will if she doesn't co operate.

Then you know that maybe you are not compatible, and the honeymoon is over.

Just talk it out to her.. may be visit to a counsellor will help her to see things from your point of view.. she is insecure may be way too much.. just try replying to her messages.. make her feel special.. also mutually decide some time out with your friends, take her with you sometime. Give it a try! If things don't work out even then then its better you move on or face it for the rest of your life!

This is partially your fault. You have allowed her to get mad at the little stuff, and after she herself told you all her faults you still decided to be with her. When she told you she was clingy, jealous, among other things, you should have backed off if you didn't want to be in the situation you are in now. You have two options, one is either you tell her how you are feeling and try to change her (which is hard). Or, you break up with her and find someone who matches your lifestyle better.

Good luck,
Javi

Well in the beginning it was hard for her to communicate with me but then she start communicating but very guarded. Don't get me wrong she does things for me too but its just the stuff she gets upset about. She was got upset from the start with the little things and we talked about it and it kind of stopped but now its like the same as before. I have tried talking to her but she brings up other things and then she goes o whatever do whatever you want kind of stuff.

You are 8 months into this and now you know what you have. You can either put up with it an allow her to run your life or you can tell her it's not going to work unless she gets some help, but in the mean time you two need to split.
The choice is yours and the ball is in your court.