Okay, so me and my ex dated for about 2 months, but a lot happened in those two months and I fell in love, quickly. She was 15 and I was 17... she is now 18 and Im 20. We thought she was pregnant, but that turned out to not be true... we broke up cause, lets face it, I was obsessive and way to clingy. This was about 2 1/2 years ago. I moved across the country (from Ohio to Arizona) for 1 1/2 years of that. I dated 2 chicks that meant nothing to me after I dated her (regret doing that). Once I came back, I got a job at walmart in the town she is from, and she wanted to meet up for lunch. We had lunch, and it was really great. No akwardness, and laughs. She often starts the conversations we have through texts, which has always been normal for us, and I start some too. Lately, she has been really bugging me about wanting to hang out, and after a few attempts that didn't work because of reasons for both of us, we should be hanging in the next few days. She invited me over to her house to hang and watch a movie. Her parents won't be there, her brother will be, but he was a good friend of mine when me and her where dating. There is one more thing I should mention... she is dating someone right now. That only hurts a little, but what hurts worse is he treats her like poopy. Im usually one of the first she talks to about all this... I still love her more than anything, and I need to know if these signs Im reading right or not... cause Im starting to get the feeling there is a possibility of an "us" again. Help?

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Originally Posted by hxcpanda

There is one more thing I should mention...she is dating someone right now.

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So... does she refer to him as boyfriend? If so, but she does indeed want for the two of you to get back together she's two-timing him. Not cool. Otherwise, you're option B when things flare between them and she needs someone to vent to. I think it more likely you've become her girlfriend, but go on and be the ear for her to cry to if you must, but the odds are probably low of this working out well for you.

I leave exes alone, and if they have a boyfriend, then that's a boundary never to cross.

She is already cheating on him with YOU, and you are letting her, so how is that a good thing??

To many red flags, and I think you are completely blind to the facts because she has been trying to draw you into something you don't have a clue about.

Bet you don't even ask why she is with a guy that treats her like poop, and who says that's what he does? HER!!

There is no reason to be her fool, or her emotional tampon, or reason to cheat. Cheaters are selfish, and care more for themselves than any partner they get with, and will say and do whatever it takes to get what they go after.

And it's a fact, she wants you to help her cheat on this boyfriend. So yes, you are misreading all her signals.

Forget the past lived with her.. she already has a present someone and its not you! So just move on.better options are waiting!

I respectfully disagree with the posters telling you that you're helping her cheat. Are you sleeping with her or kissing her or what? I would agree that if my girlfriend were hanging out with some guy and watching movies at his house, that would make me a tad uncomfortable, but I don't know if it's cheating.

You know what the right answer is, you just don't want to do it cause you're scared. Just sit her down, tell her how you feel and find out if you and her are on the same page or not. Just explain to her that you're getting some confusing signals from her and you need to clear it up.

If she's not ready to leave that other fellow and get back with you, I think you need to leaver her be. Sounds like you're too emotionally invested in her to be "just friends."

At least then you'll know and you can either get on with you life, with or without her.