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  • Apr 17, 2011, 08:52 PM
    Sweet_moment11
    Relationship chaos... help please.
    This is a long story, and I'm not that great at explaining things, so please bare with me ^_^"

    Okay, so it all began with a good friend of mine (let's call him A). A and I have been really awesome friends since the beginning of my freshman year. He was really the first person to even try to talk to me, so naturally we became buddies. I met B (his best friend) though an afterschool course. We had gotten to know each other, and after awhile he had asked me out. I had developed somewhat of a crush on him, so I said yes ofcourse. A week goes by and I'm really starting to like B. We have loads of stuff in common, and I couldn't be happier.

    Another week and a half goes by, when I get a disturbing text from A. In the text he confessed to me that he had liked me all along, and that he couldn't believe how stupid I was for dating B because B just asked me out to make him(A) jealous (or so he claimed). He went on to list details about why I should hate B's guts (complete with an array of curses and colorful analogies). I responded by apologizing for not realizing his feelings (I really had no idea!), and stating that I didn't like the way he just freely dissed his "best friend" behind his back. He didn't reply (out of anger probably... )

    The next day I get a text message from B that said he wanted to break up with me. Apparently he valued his relationship with A so much that he couldn't bear to have A mad at him. He told me that he still liked me but he just didn't want any turmoil between him and A.

    A still wants to go out with me. B still likes me, but he values his friendship with A more. I still like B.
    What do I do? I've tried to reason with both of them but with no luck... HELP.
  • Apr 17, 2011, 09:42 PM
    Scleros

    Leave kiddie A alone until he grows up some - y'snooze, y'lose. Actually, no, he's done as I wouldn't tolerate him calling me stupid for his own ineptitude. However, he's young, so some sustained groveling on his part might eventually improve my disposition towards him. Leave B alone too until the whole thing blows over. B may in time reassess his relationships and wish to revisit yours.
  • Apr 17, 2011, 10:37 PM
    monsterniki
    First of all why didn't B value his friendship before knowing that dating you would have made A upset. So clearly B isn't worth the time and A well I wouldn't jump fast to get with him either you ned time to gather your feelings and clear your head out.
  • Apr 18, 2011, 10:32 AM
    ajwain
    The source of your problem seems to be between A and B.some sort of plan or game between them in which you have been sandwitched.try to find out what exactly is the matter. And then if decide whether you want to be with B.
  • Apr 18, 2011, 11:21 AM
    carmex

    What a mess. Here's some advice - Decide what you want and what makes the most sense for you and then you'll figure out who your friends really are. Some of them will support and encourage you, accepting your decision, and some of them will resent you and leave you for it. You're better off knowing now which is which.

    Person A needs to work on their confidence. Person B neds to work on their loyalty and friendship. And you need to work on taking care of yourself and not worrying so much about others.
  • Apr 18, 2011, 02:50 PM
    karaboo124
    Go find someone new. Don't mess up that awesome friendship because honestly there is plenty of fish in the sea and dating either one of them is going to make them not like the other and as well as you
  • Apr 19, 2011, 06:51 AM
    talaniman

    Let A and B have each other, and find guy C. That would serve them both right for making this a soap opera.

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