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  • Apr 13, 2011, 10:06 PM
    ilyosxon
    I need help me!! To back my girlfriend
    We are together with my girl friend. I love her very much. But one problem. When I called she was crying and sad. And she asked to not call her again because her parents have known that we are fell in love with her. So the took her mobile away. Please help me how I continue my relationship with her??
  • Apr 13, 2011, 10:14 PM
    Alty

    Are you saying that her parents are against your relationship with her? If so, why?

    How old is she? How old are you?

    If she's an adult then she can choose who to date. But, if she's a minor, living in her parents home, then they have the right to take away her phone and tell her she's not allowed to date you.
  • Apr 14, 2011, 06:36 AM
    talaniman

    Your ages and cultures, or countries would help, but as Alty said, not a lot you can do when parents put their foot down, but obey them. She has little choice it seems. You must be patient, and not get her in further trouble.
  • Apr 14, 2011, 10:23 PM
    Sumitkumar7266
    Ya you should be patient and not get her in the trouble.. Wait,she will contact you when she will get the chance and then u can plan what to do next.. But for all those things she should be with you and trust you.She should not leave the hope.. Wait for her..
  • Apr 15, 2011, 06:17 AM
    brianna_s
    Talk to her parents.
  • Apr 16, 2011, 01:32 AM
    renda_swagg
    Don't you go to the some school or work because you can see her and yeahh
  • Apr 16, 2011, 02:24 AM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by renda_swagg View Post
    don't you go to hte some school or work because you can see her and yeahh

    What? That made no sense.
  • Apr 16, 2011, 03:20 AM
    amicon
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by renda_swagg View Post
    don't you go to hte some school or work because you can see her and yeahh

    And this means what ?
  • Apr 16, 2011, 07:49 AM
    ilyosxon
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Altenweg
    Are you saying that her parents are against your relationship with her? If so, why?

    How old is she? How old are you?

    If she's an adult then she can choose who to date. But, if she's a minor, living in her parents home, then they have the right to take away her phone and tell her she's not allowed to date you.
    Me and her 17. Yes. I don't know

    Look! Our relation was very good. But one day when I called her , she was crying and sad. And she asked to not call again. So for 4 days we are not in touch. Please help. What should I do. I Love her very muuuuuuch! Thanks
  • Apr 16, 2011, 08:07 AM
    ilyosxon
    Comment on Sumitkumar7266's post
    OK!! But she might forget me! Then?
  • Apr 16, 2011, 08:34 AM
    talaniman
    Sorry for your loss but if her parents put an end to this relationship, that's it, unless you speak to them yourself. Is she up for that?? Are you?

    If not, you are not left with many options at all.
  • Apr 16, 2011, 08:37 AM
    ilyosxon
    I asked. But she respectes more her parents than me. So she decided to not talk with me
  • Apr 16, 2011, 03:46 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ilyosxon View Post
    i asked. but she respectes more her parents than me. so she decided to not talk with me

    That's her choice. It sounds like you live in a culture where the parents choose who their children date. If they've decided that they don't want their daughter to date you, then she won't.

    She's made her decision, and like it or not, you can't force her to change her mind. It takes two to make a relationship work, and she's chosen to listen to her parents.

    It's time for you to accept that this is over, and move on.
  • Apr 16, 2011, 09:26 PM
    ilyosxon
    Comment on Altenweg's post
    Look! I can't move on. Because I love her. It's so difficult to move on. There is must be another way to continue our relationship
  • Apr 16, 2011, 10:50 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ilyosxon View Post
    i asked. but she respects more her parents than me. so she decided to not talk with me

    Then you have no choices but to respect her wish, and leave her alone.

    Sorry guy, its sucks big time I know, but you will heal, and find some one who puts you first above all else. For a while it will be very rough, but you will grow from it, and be better for the experience.
  • Apr 16, 2011, 11:14 PM
    Alty

    Quote:

    Look! I can't move on. Because I love her. It's so difficult to move on. There is must be another way to continue our relationship
    Okay, read what you just wrote. This isn't rational behavior. This isn't logical thinking. Are you actually saying that you're not going to give her a choice because you want her and you will have her? That's what it sounds like.

    It takes two to make a relationship work. Two, not one, no matter how much that one person may love the other one, if the other one no longer wants the relationship, it's over.

    I know it hurts, but you have to accept it. You don't have a choice.
  • Apr 17, 2011, 02:12 AM
    ilyosxon
    She is not
  • Apr 17, 2011, 09:33 PM
    Sumitkumar7266
    Comment on Sumitkumar7266's post
    If she forget you,then leave her and u also try to forget her.. We can not bind the relationship especially love.. LOve is an inner feeling which comes from heart.. If your love is true and she loves you then she will come back..

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