Hello I'm 15 and have liked this guy named Sam for a year and a half. I can see us together, he's real not fake, attractive, and sweet. We are freshman. And he hasn't had a girlfriend in 2 years my last boyfriend was about 6 months ago. Sam and I have hung out one time. Just as friends last summer. I have one class with him out of 8. It's hard to talk to him in class. I've asked him several times to hang out and get rejected. He told me "it seems like you are looking for a serious relationship and I'm not" and I asked why And he said "there is no point in a serious relationship at 15" this is true. But I would love for us to just at least be closer. (me be able to talk to him more, hug him, hang out with him, etc) please help. He acts like he's interested in me but other times he doesn't. What can I talk to him about in class? How could I get him to hang out with me? I try to text him but he's not that interesting he actually tries to talk to me in person. Is he playing mind games with me? Any. Other advice? Thanks! So much I'm really upset

No, he's not playing mind games. He's told you up front how he feels.

He's made it plain he is not interested in a serious/romantic relationship, and at 15, that's fine. If you have a class with him, ask him to have a cup of coffee and discuss your class work. See if the conversation stays with the class work or becomes general.

Do not expect to start hugging him. For guys, hugging is not a sign of friendship, it's a thing you do with your girlfriend, not your friends.

But really, I would back off on your feelings for him. You may feel you are ready for more, he knows he's not.

You are so caught up in what you want you aren't paying very close attention to what he has told you. He doesn't want a relationship with you, so back off, and stop trying to get his attention, as its almost like you are so desperate you would try anything. That will turn him off for sure, but its hopeless right now any way, so just quit trying so hard or he will become annoyed with your efforts.

Hey when somebody doesn't like you like you like them, then you leave them alone, and don't play games trying to get attention from them. Maybe you see you two together, but he doesn't and has told you so. Forget it!

Tal and Eileen are spot on, your almost harassing him. You say sometimes he seems interested, well he is just being nice and keeping you at arms length at the same time. If he were any less nice I would say he have told you were to go by now but he clearly wants a drama free life. So if I were you I would not ask him out again or you will push him over the edge, he will get extremely tired of it soon enough.

Hey guys thanks for your advice! But this is so hard to accept. He tries to get my attention like I try to get his. And that I don't know why. Is he just leaving me along the side if he decides he wants to be with someone? And how can I help myself to accept this?

He's been straight with you. He's not looking for a relationship with you. He may be happy to be friends, but that's it.

Write a few poems, listen to some sad music, talk long walks, then get over it. Look for someone else. No, the new guy won't be the same, but he'll have his own special appeal. And even better, he should want to be with you.