Is this a break up or just a break?
Ok here goes... I'll try to make this as brief as I can. Need help.
Single mom here. Never married, on purpose (afraid of dating while raising a child). Now ready.
OK... was with my boyfriend 18 years ago for 8 months. In love romance, love love love.
Out of nowhere he broke up, said he needed to move on and get his career in order. Left me there standing crying.
16 years later, I joined FB one hour later I have a message. From him. My heart sank.
We began chatting, 30 min's into the chat he says he's married 12 years with one child.
OK... heart sank again. Got to go... not good to chat.
4 days later... writes to tell me his wife asked for a divorce, he's jumping for joy... she moves out... he's alone all of 2 weeks.
Hardest 2 years of my life: I lost my best friend and sister in law died overnight... my daughter got diagnosed with two diseases, and my dad (my rock) began going downhill and finally passed too, as well as my daughter had one of a few major surgeries in her future. WE began fighting badly over nothing... me mostly starting them... stressed to thebone. Financial ruins from med bills etc/ Upon my daughter's diagnoses we got into a small argument over pasta... he disappeared for two weeks... while we were at specialists daily determining how bad her diagnoses was... all entails. I cried daily about her and him it was all too much... abandoned worst time ever. I wrote him a letter , he came back.
When we were together we were madly in love... we are mid 40's, and were love birds and partners... when apart... the phone calls were sticky and uncomfortable, I'd misread his tone... etc. I never got through my resentment for his leaving... I tried.
One fight too many he "took a few days break" ( after he just gave me a RING).
Few days turned to 2 weeks and finally he broke up in an email. 3 lines.
We had our first date 3 weeks after his separation; hard and fast right where we left off 16 years prior. *mind you, never saw or spoke to him in 16 yers).
I brought him into our world, my daughter fell in love... he fell in love, WE fell hugely in LOVE again in this lifetime for the 2nd time. Meant to be... something movies are made of right?
It's been 5 weeks and nothing really... I called twice in this time and no pick up or response. My daughter and I are so so sad and confused... another death of sorts really.
You can't imagine... 2.5 years, a ring.. he was paying for my daughter's tuition and now she can't continue at the school where she's bonded to... I miss him and I know my part in this.. I was grieving beyond... for everything and didn't know how to deal.
I feel he makes snap decisions without thinking them through... he loved or said us so much... always doing for us... taking us... helping... our love making was it for both of us... never to look another way again.
What to do?
Thanks.