I found out my boyfriend had been sending messages to other girls, giving them his number ans address asking to meet for sex.At first he lied to me saying he never sent those messages, but then I got my proof that he did. Since then We have spoken and he said he never cheated on me and that he was doing it for attention and to see if he could. He says he wants me, and that he was stupid and would never do it again. The problem that I'm having is that he lied to me at first until I found out and told him what I saw, I do love him but it's doing my head in beacause I can't trust him or believe what he says to me now. He said his gone round a mates for a bbq and I want to believe him, but my head is just all over the place. I know that if the trust has gone, there is no relationship, I just honestly don't know what to do. I want things to work, because I love him, I'm just so scared that it's going to happen again.

You MAde a key Point, if the trust is gone then there is no relationship. So what you have to do since you are deciding to stay with him is just occupy your mind and attention to other things. Make male friends, (not to cheat) but keep him on point that he can be replaced. And I don't know if you believe in god but, I am speaking from experience. ANYTIME I have had doubts about my partners fidelity, I prayed for the truth and it was given to me. Pray for god to show you the truth of his behavior. I promise I'm not trying to give you a religious lecture or preach but I know how hard it is dealing with trust issues and the mind is VERY powerful and can drive you nuts. So pray about it, leave it in gods hands, don't stress and the truth will come to light! GOod Luck

I wouldn't trust anyone who does things behind your back, lies, and only confesses when he get the evidence thrown in his face either.

Maybe he didn't cheat, but he sure as hell was trying. Let this on go, damage done.

Come on,you can do better than this-what a jerk!

Lies,tries to cheat,trust gone-game over.

There are good guys out there,don't stay with this sad excuse for a man.