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So I typed this huge story of it, but I figure I would rather make it concise. However, if you'd really like to help me out I will attach the full version. If anyone does end up reading the full version, seriously you are awesome.
I'm a 20 year old male, and my 19 year old ex-girlfriend broke up around a month ago. We met a little over a year ago. We began seeing each other in May 2010. Everything picked up over the summer, and the following semester I moved in with her family. Everything was awesome, we were just like best friends being romantic. Around 6, months in (November 2010) we kind of started having some petty arguments. Anyway, December everything went smoothly. January, we had kind of a bigger argument, and finally I called her to talk about it and I accidentally said " can we just end this?" Referring to the argument. She thought I was talking about the relationship. She began to cry immediately and I proceeded to explain myself and apologize. Everything was fine. In the beginning of Feb. I asked her out, she said yes, and even though she didn't like being public about things everyone pretty much knew anyway. Anyway a week after that we made love for her first time. One Monday, two to three weeks later we had a petty argument which led to a discussion about us. She said she didn't want the title and she didn't have enough time for us. I told her that all of that is secondary, and that it just matters about how you feel. I proceeded to ask her the reasoning, and she said she needed to be with her family. Basically, she didn't want to me the real reason. I found out later that it was because I wasn't giving her enough space and I was being a little to emotional, but that's pretty much I've got. I didn't take it very well. Although, I didn't text her that week she contacted me briefly. That Friday we both attended a party, she acted as if everything was fine, and later that night we had crazy sex. I go home for spring break and when I come back she text me, and I ask her to pick me up for school. She comes, and while she is there I try to kiss her and she turns away. I haven't seen her much since then. It's been about 2-3 weeks. She text me here and there, just minimal stuff.
Here are some important factors/questions:
-She was a virgin.
-Her father died in a subtle car accident when she was a freshman in high school.
-We had a significant of miscommunications, but we still got along great.
- She told me I was the most important male figure in her life since her father passed.
-I'm doing my best to get over it, and I'm feeling better. I've been in very limited contact. 85% She'll initiate contact with me even if its just little stuff. But I really did care about this girl. I wouldn't have even had sex with her if I knew this **** was going to happen.
-Do you think she has fear of commitment or letting someone get close due to her father? Or any other issues?
-Could she possibly trying to revert back to how things were, secretly, or is it beyond that point?
-I'm not positive, but she may be on the rebound. I'm not concerned about this though. I know if I saw her or heard about her and a new guy I'd be upset. I know it wouldn't be significant as our time together. I know that your not supposed to do anything, but is there anyway I could use the rebound in a positive manner?
-We've been in limited contact, and I'm aware that in order to actually get back with this girl I must get over her. I know, sounds stupid, but in order to not let my emotions block my logic I am trying as best I can.
-Once, we hangout I will not do anything to make her uncomfortable. One of my buddies suggested just trying to talk to her a little bit more, gradually. Are there any more tips or pointers I should enact?
You don't have to answer all questions, please feel free to add any input, I understand moving on is the easiest path, but call me stubborn, I don't give up that easy. THANK YOU FOR ANY HELP!- yea.. short version.
