I am a 45-year old hetero male. I live in a tiny village. I have to go to the store. In the store a pretty lady works, and she seems very, very attracted to me. She gets starry-eyed, or she can get defensive, but not able to be defensive, for no reason, in other words there is something she cannot fight. She cannot look at me without something happening to her. Then it is as though she is thinking, I know that you know that... but I don't know, and I hope to God she understands I am not on the make. I feel bad. It is as though we are about to make love. We're not. I am already in a committed relationship. When I try acting normal, she gets affected, no matter what, and if I am nice, it is as though an intimacy is developing. At times, I think of laying my cards on the table, but that would be a disrespect to her privacy of conscience. Attention females: what should a man do in a case like this?

Are you able to have a conversation with her?

If that's not possible then possibly take your partner in with you one day. Obviously act nonchalant, standard greeting but pay attention.. perhaps a little more attention to your partner.

It's hard to gauge, she maybe on medication, she could be on a rebound, she could fancy you a lot but embarrassed by her own inability to be able to say anything or unsure of how to act.

Me, although confident in nature, if there's a nice looking man around, I tend to drop to klutz mode and say things that I just wish the ground would open up and swallow me afterwards. I'm exceptionally well versed at eating humble pie.. more especially in the face of cute men :)

However, we all react differently some a little more odd than what we're used too.

If all else fails, drop back to cordial greetings if she serves you, smile a nod and go about your business.

You ignore her antics, go about your business, and don't give this a second thought. Its her problem, let her deal with it.

Why open a can of worms over something you know nothing about, and don't even know the person.

She acts weird, so keep a healthy distance.

She comes across as strange;ignore her and minimum contact when you have to go to the shop.

Very helpful all around, thanks.

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