I made my 11 year old daughter mad at me now she stop talking to me. Its driving me crazy. I loved my daughter I loved the fact of being a dad. Why did I do what I did? It was a mixture of ambiene and drinking I did mean too. And I was a little anrgy but I love her I bought her everything I mean everything. Now I driving my girlfriend crazy my mom dad brother and sisters. My baby's mother cut all commucation between us my daughter change her name to her stepdad last name on Facebook... and I really miss her it hurts so much... Why can't I let it go...

Have you spoken to a professional, perhaps a counsellor, about this?

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It sounds like you may have spoiled her a bit , which sometimes leads to confrontation when they don't get
Something they want.

Try to communicate with her that is always the best way to settle things .
If she refuses there is not much you can do be there to be a dad .

Young girls can be too much for a man to understand on his own.

I agree with Judy that you should talk to a professional, they can be a great help,

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Originally Posted by jcrummett

It was a mixture of ambiene and drinking I did mean too.

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Does this mean that you MEANT to mix the Ambien and alcohol? This is the part that really concerns me.

Only you know how extreme your behavior was but if you can send her messages on Facebook, maybe try writing her a heartfelt message. Acknowledge how angry she must be, apologize for how you behaved (do not blame it on the Ambien and alcohol as those were choices you made), let her know how much you love her, and that you would like to communicate with her when she is ready to.

Then leave it alone. She likely just needs to cool off, and be upset for awhile. Again, it can depend on just what you said and how you treated her.

From the sounds of it, she will either contact you because of how close you were and she misses you, or when she wants something so that you can buy it for her.

I hope you don't have to wait too long to hear from her.

Do you mean to say that you were mean to her due to a mixing of ambien and alcohol? This is how I read it personally.

I read that she was mean but it was because of the mixture. Or something. Of course, OP hasn't come back so we can pretty all talk to each other.

Thank you

If you don't mind answering, I would like to know WHAT you did that made her angry. Was it something minor and she is just being a kid, or was it something SERIOUS that caused major damage.

I think its both but the amazing way I treated her before this 3 month ordeal was great.. I think every dad has a caused major damage my mother dad (whos a saint) did my father did. My best friends dad did.. my bosses dad did. Man I know its not an excuse but I'm willing to change... we haven't talk in 4 months reading these comments really help me

Were you abusive? Hurtfull? Or were you simply stressed out and frustrated and treated her coldly?

If you were abusive, it may take her a great deal of time to accept that you truly apologies for it and want to change.

But which ever way it was, it will take her time to trust you again, to trust that it won't happen again, and that you ARE changing, and not that you SAY you will

Good luck hon. And I aplaud you for trying to do what's best, rather than just walking away like so many fathers do

Reading statements from everybody good or bad really helps in how you feel... Plus I look up other peoples whose daughter stop talking to them really lets me know a lot more then I thought to all the people who answer thanks your helping me cope with the bad feelings. And for the people who are in the same boat man I hope they return soon. Because I miss the crap out of my daughter...

Have you considered letting her know just that, without badgering her? You were wrong, you admit it, you miss the crap out of her (and I'm not kidding, I'd use those words).

And then step back.

Mom cut off all communication between us no mail, no email, no Facebook, nothing plus the only other communication I did have said she's not ready to talk to me yet... so I am doing what others say wait and tell my friends who know her that I miss her and love her. Thanks