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  • Apr 4, 2011, 07:01 AM
    Kathy2010Help
    I broke up with my boyfriend because Im tired of him being an jerk to me. Why do I feel bad now?
    Ive been dating him for a year and I love him but sometimes too much is too much. He's been unemployed for a year and his family has turned their back on him so for a year Ive been his mom, atm, and the best girlfriend I can be. And he doesn't appreciate all Ive done for him! Instead he yells at me in front of everyone, looks at porno, and hangs up on me whenever he gets upset. Ive told him sooooo many times to stop hanging up and disrespecting me and he doesn't care. I finally had enough and broke up w him yesterday after he hanged up on me twice! N now I feel bad? He has a lot of issues (anger issues too) n I feel he needs me in his life but at the same time I need to be happy and not feel frustrated all the time. Pleaseeeee I need words of advice so I know I made the right decision. Thank you
  • Apr 4, 2011, 07:14 AM
    amicon

    You did the right thing.

    Whatever his problems are,he should sort them out himself now.

    You're feeling bad because you've just come out of a relationship-that's always a big change.

    Now's the time to start putting your own life back together and be good to yourself.

    Start healing,start moving forward.
  • Apr 4, 2011, 07:24 AM
    adviceishere
    I agree with Amicon... of course your going to feel bad, if you didn't you would be heartless, but you did absolutely the right thing. The guy is a burden and he's taking advantage, his whole family turned their backs on him and that still didn't make him change! So you sticking by him isn't going to do much good either. People have been wiping his backside far to long and he needs to grow up. Start having some fun now and looking after number one!
  • Apr 4, 2011, 08:24 AM
    talaniman

    The others are absolutely dead on the money. You are a great human who cares enough to give you all, but got nothing back from this jerk. YOU DID YOUR BEST.

    You are also a strong, smart cookie, to know when enough is enough, so you stopped the suffering by standing for yourself.

    Sure you feel bad, it was disappointing, but you did what you had to do for yourself, and the best part, after a proper healing process, you will be free to make some deserving guy feel very lucky.

    And he will surely appreciate a good partner. So get ready for something much better in your future, now that you shed the dead weight.
  • Apr 4, 2011, 10:26 AM
    Kathy2010Help
    Thank you so much for your advice. It really helped me! I just have a big heart and I was there for him so much I feel unappreciated but I know deep inside I deserve better
  • Apr 4, 2011, 10:42 AM
    amicon

    I'm happy we could help.

    Good luck with your life and have a great future!

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