My mum does nothing to help she all she cares about is her boyfriend she 36 and he is 22 that gross she says I have to go to prom then she gets my hopes up about it then she just takes them away again first she says oh you can have a couple hundred on myself for the prom then my brother pretends to be bullied and says he won't drumming leasons so no I don't have that much money anymore then she says she has and then the skol said I can't go then they say I can go I hate life I won't my mum to understand how pissed of she makes me and she won't stop nagging about my dad saying he never does anything for us and how he used to get in trouble with the police and saying when I get a job it will be ilagel and she says I will be a treeable good person but a brillent criminal I hate her and she goes on and on how she thinks because I'm 16 I'm reasponable for everything when I'm not and when my nan died last month she said I could go then I couldn't

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Originally Posted by beepo

my mum does nothing to help she all she cares about is her boyfriend she 36 and he is 22 that gross she says i have to go to prom then she gets my hopes up about it then she just takes them away agin first she says oh u can have a couple hundred on myself for the prom then my brother pretends to be bullied and says he wont drumming leasons so no i dnt have that much money anymore then she says she has and then the skol said i can't go then they say i can go i hate life i wont my mum to understand how pissed of she makes me and she wont stop nagging about my dad saying he never does anything for us and how he used to get in trouble with the police and saying when i get a job it will be ilagel and she says i will be a treeable good person but a brillent criminal i hate her and she goes on and on how she thinks because im 16 im reasponable for everything when im not and when my nan died last mounth she said i could go then i couldnt

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What does you mother not help with? Why does she say you can have or do something and then takes it away? You must be doing something wrong if she has to punish you like that... sounds like she's trying to be equal with her money to you and your brother, its very hard being a single parent, especially with the recession.

Have you talked to a school counselor about this? Teacher? Doctor? A friends parent? You are not going to get the help you need online other than advice on what to do.

I'm sorry she did that to you. It was pretty crappy of her. But keep your chin up and talk to someone about this. They can help.

Is there a way you can borrow a dres from a friend? Some schools have aide set up for students who don't have the money for important things (like prom, which IS important) or you can shake it up, and make it fun to go to prom in something else instead of a dress. A girl at my school made an outfit out of duct tape! It was the hit of the dance!

I have the same.problem I feel you but the best thing to do is tell her if she doesn't listen don't pay attention to her for a week or so then when she asks why tell her the problem

Trust me your mom I stressed to whether mentally,physically or emotionally one thing you must do is admit you are at fault you know you bug her,nag,maybe not do your chores,talk back or have lie,been failing in school even if you are doing none of things mom's just don't like to shut up.Try to consult with her when she's calm 7 in her happy place & say mom sometimes I wish you would just shut up (make sure your mom is in the joking mood) you nag me,point out what I do wrong & I'm just not happy anymore you never shutup can you please just cut me some slack. (& if you don't deserve it earn it & if you do exclaim you do your work,your chores,get good grades, everything you ask can you just shhhh for once in a while.Although if this doesn't work try to get away from the nest & hang out with friends,stay at your grandmothers,even spend time at the library it will minimize your time of hearing your mom.

Answer is
That sucks look for the good in your life
Or kill them all and relax in the bushes

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pious stupid search your feelings you will know it to be true . Its not helpful jenniepepsi is just talking out of her she doesn't care aboot this guy? Comon o lalal its really crappy of her comon Source:hempdepot.ca

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Excuse me, would you mind speaking clear English? I don't understand what you are saying. And what exactly was wrong with my advice of telling her to go to the prom in something other than an expensive dress?

Your grammar was the most difficult thing to decipher but I think I got the gist of it. I'm 19, I'm still sort of with you in that she wants to know you, she says things and forgets and things come up and life happens.

Well... there's no way you're going to get mom to understand you and ever shut up. You're right at the cusp of adulthood and you want to be recognized a moral-logical-human-being. But you're also still her baby, you are dependent on her, and you do deserve to be understood. But you're also a teenager. It's a famous concept that teenagers are a separate species from humans, our brains are developing at hyperspeed where we experience life at the extremes. If someone in your school dies that you don't really know they suddenly become a martyr who everyone now knows even if before that person was a nobody.

What I'm trying to say is that... she won't understand, she will try and so will you. But things get lost in translation, you who wants so desperately to be identified and she who wants a role in your life.

Wait it out, you won't understand each other, it's impossible between teenager to adult, we're changing too fast. I look back at my 16 year old self and think "god...what an idiot" but I'm sure I'll think that of myself now 20 years from now. Things will pass, and one day you will be understood, if not by her then by someone else. Just bear with it, do enough to make yourselves happy, but don't intend on being understood.