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  • Apr 2, 2011, 09:48 PM
    KateCher
    Good or bad idea?
    Im am 17 and my boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me recently (he is 16).. Im doing a lot better now, I'm not contacting him and I'm changing into a better person. Im still hurt and miss him.. He was my first love and I feel like I still love him. We both had our faults but he broke up with me because of things I did wrong. During the 7 months I threatened to break up with him a few times when we fought because I was scared and thought that maybe that was what was best for him.. I guess he got sick of that and got sick of my constant questions and doubting him. Its been about a month since we broke up and about two weeks since I stopped my constant calling and begging for him to forgive me. He said some rude things and I ruined my chances of staying friends by asking if hed ever get back together. But we were crazy in love and had so much fun togther making each other happy. Ive recently got this hope that after I lose the few pounds I've gained and had time to think about what I did wrong and change that I can dress real good and go see him at work around the end of the month or near the beginning of summer.. and show him that I have changed and still care for him.. Maybe hell see this and want to catch up and maybe even try dating again.. If not then I move on for good. Im not going to get my hopes up.. but I want to know if this is a stupid plan... Please answer :)<3
  • Apr 2, 2011, 09:51 PM
    Wondergirl

    Bad idea. Don't try to relive what is now history. Move forward with your life.
  • Apr 3, 2011, 04:01 AM
    amicon

    It's in the past.
    Leave it in the past.

    You should move on with your life.

    Good luck.
  • Apr 3, 2011, 11:22 AM
    Devorameira

    He's not the only fish in the sea. Don't lose weight and dress differently for him, you'll only be successful if you do it for yourself. Change is only good when you do it for yourself.

    I personally think it's time for you to move on and find someone who really cares for you and wants to be with you.
  • Apr 3, 2011, 11:35 AM
    talaniman

    Sorry I know you are still hurting, but that's a lousy plan in my opinion, and something you should do for yourself if you want to, and not waste time and a lot of hard work on someone that may not appreciate it.

    Also, your pictures were removed for your privacy, and Internet safety. You are a cutie, that will have no trouble attracting a good guy when you have gone through a proper healing process, and learned from your past, that you can't just reject, or act impulsively out of fear, and expect good results.

    If he wants to comeback to you, it must be on his own, without your influence, and not because you have a plan. Do your thing and enjoy yourself for now, as no point in holding your breath waiting for something that may not happen.
  • Apr 8, 2011, 10:51 PM
    KateCher
    Comment on talaniman's post
    Your right :)... and thank you... I guess I just thought that If he knew I changed then he would want to come back. But I need to move on and Just live my life... because I'm still young.. even though It feels like ill never find anyone again I know I will. This was only my first love. Thank you so much for your answer :)
  • Apr 9, 2011, 01:01 PM
    amicon

    Good luck and take care!

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