Well I got a big sister and I don't really trust her even though we are close but sometimes I just feel insecure. My sister is really pretty light skinned, big boobs, kind of short, short hair and really pretty but me I'm taller than her, natural black skin, long and short hair. She is popular than I am, got tons of friends and she is really nice all the boys love her. But one of her friends turned out to be my boyfriend whom I break up with for a week now. When I was with him I fell in love with him so bad, like nothing else matter in my life if I wasn't with him. But it just brings my temper down when he is talking to my sister, it just makes me crazy when they talked, laugh together they get along so well but I understand that because they friends. But its not the first time I've seen them talking on Facebook for hours. One night, they spent hours talking until is midnight, they gave jokes, played chess and everything and I was there and he didn't asked for me but then again what bugs me is that I don't want to be rude because they are friends. And again I am really jealous but I don't show it. One day I was talking with him on the phone and he asked if he could talk to my sister, being a fool I gave her the phone. They have been talking for an hour I got so mad and to hide it I pretended to go to sleep and my sister started to tell me oh take the phone, I am not talking with him no more, I took the phone and pretend that I was sleepy I send him off. But now I broke up with him because of my dad telling us about moving, so I couldn't handle another long distance relationship so we break up and still I got jealous when my sister text him. She had the nerve to tell me she went and text him in class while in school, let me tell you I practically tell her to stop texting him while in class ever again. And I still feel insecure by my sister and I don't know what to do... Help please!!

You dumped him for your own reasons so let him go.

He is a ex, so why worry about it,

I am more concerned about your comparing yourself to your sister than I am about an ex.

I hope that on a deeper level you understand that you are a unique individual with many great qualities of your own. You don't say how old you are but if you are both still in school then I can guess that you are relatively young and have a lot of learning to do about who you are and how to be comfortable with yourself. Do you have any hobbies or interests that you enjoy?

For the future: Something to remember is that other people don't know what you are thinking or feeling unless you tell them. Talk to your sister (no fighting) about how you feel. Listen to her when she talks and as sisters work out ways to keep any future males/relationships from coming between you.

Good luck and I hope you will like your new school and home when you move.

Yea I think you need to be more confident in yourself and not dwell so much(eventhough it is difficult) on this guys because your sister will always be your sister. So at some point your going to have to stop comparing yourself to her you guys are different and there can be things you can offer and traits you have that she doesn't.