Me and my boyfriend been together for 4 yrs he had always worked constinly and we had very little time for each other I went out on a date with anothet guy and ended up staying the night at the guys house but nothing happened I eventually told my boyfriend about it and y he was very hurt but we tried working this out but he says thereto much damage. I asked him to go to counseling. With me but he won't go what should I do I love him and don't want to lose him

Why did you go on a date with another man?

That tells me something wasn't working in the relationship.

Your staying the night in his house wasn't a smart move either.

If your boyfriend won't go to counseling and you can't resolve this yourselves, I too thinkthere has been too much damage.

It's really obvious that there has been a lot more going on in this relationship going on than him just working a lot.

Evidently he does feel like he can never trust you again and thinks the relationship can't be mended. With that being said, I think it's time for you to accept total responsibility for your actions and move on.

You should leave and get your own counseling. Cheating makes problems, not solves them, and I don't understand what you were thinking.

I have to be honest here but I would never talk to you again after something like that. I know nothing happened but the trust that was built up over 4 years was thrown out the window for one date.