I'm a single mother, that needs some advice?? I have a 4 year old daughter, who has maybe seen her bio father like 8 times in her life 2 of those was supervised visits. I have full legal/ and full guardian ship!! Her father has been making everyone around me upset, I have a PPO against him and he has found his ways around to go around the system. As of right now he is in a state prison, it will be 2 years as of this coming Feb. I am getting married in June and he doesn't like the ideal of my future husband adopting her! Can he stop this adopting from happening? He has gave up the right to visit, due to missing to many schudule dates! Court is telling me being married for a year he has the right to adopt my daughter that is whom she calls "daD" when we going to do papers he will be serving 2 months in the county jail due to fraud against me! Can he stop this? Please I need help for this adoption?

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This is a hard one. I would like to reassure you and tell you he won't be able to stop the adoption, but its an iffy thing. On the one hand, his lack of being a part of the child's life, his criminal record the willingness of your soon to be husband to adopt give a good chance for a court to grant the adoption. But courts are very reluctant to terminate parental rights involuntarily.

So there are no guarantees here. Get a local attorney who knows the mood of your local courts who can give you a better idea.

Thanks, he hasn't done anything for my little girl, still owes a birth bill that's 4 years old, owes me a total of 1500 for fraud, and child support he behind a lot!

Yes, if he was out of prison, while he has no visit rights now, he could easily get them, they may have to be supervised, but could get them normally.

Since he says he will fight it, and he has that right, Jail time, last of visits may well be good reasons to take his rights to allow adoption.

But in some areas this will not be enough either.

He was already allowed visits for a month if he was on time and didn't cancel he would have visits the court told him that either he needed to take it up with me but I have a ppo against him and he never took it back to court so court cancelled all visitation because he missed 3 and never called and was late to 2 of them!

Honestly you and you child shouldn`t have to be around an individual such as that man. He is your child`s father, but he`s not a father figure to your child. I suggest that you make a appointment with a local attorney to help you with this matter. I can`t see why he was even allowed to visit your child, when he hasn`t done anything of value to his child. He missed out the first most important years of his child`s life and it won`t every come back. All you have to do is to be strong for you and your child, and be the best parent that you can possibly be.

Good luck my there and keep your head up.

Thanks, a lot but as you might know a attonery won't do payment plans lol! But like I said she doesn't even know him! And my future husband is her PERƒect daddy!

Don`t stress yourself girl. I say go ahead hun and married that man. Your child`s father is in Stats Prison, let him stay their and role with his kind and even worst. Hold your head up and be strong. Who cares about what your child`s father thinks... because your child already as a father figure who loves her and love you too, so I say honey move on to bigger and better things. :)

Trying but can't seem too with knowing she has both last names and won't let me drop his, and knowing that she can be hurt in the end when he and his family decides to come around I don't want a confused little girl I'm trying to protect her the most I can! And I can't until he's out of the picture all the way not just half!!

Okay, the last couple responses are not LEGAL responses.

Please keep responses on the LEGAL boards to law--take opinions over to relationships.

Yes, he probably CAN stop the adoption. If it were so easy to sever parental rights because the parent doesn't visit and has committed crimes (jail-worthy), then crack moms wouldn't have chance after chance to get their children back from foster care--they'd be adopted while they are still adoptable and not kept in the system forever. You will probably have to PROVE to a court that he is a DANGER to your child.

Being in jail isn't enough to take away someone's parental rights involuntarily.

You NEED a lawyer for this one. You'll never get it resolved without one.

I have a question for u! The court stopped visits last time why would they give them back?

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Originally Posted by a_carpenter

I have a question for u! the court stopped visits last time why would they give them back??

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Because people change. Maybe he can prove to the court that he is a changed man and worthy of being a father again. I don't know.

Like I said, I think you have a good chance of having the adoption go through. And some attorneys DO work on payment plans, shop around. Having an attorney will go a long way to getting the adoption through. And if he has an attorney and you don't, you start from a poor position. An attorney will know how to prepare your case to put it in a light the judges will agree with.

Oh, and please don't use the Comments feature for follow-up questions or info, Use the Answer options at the bottom of the page.

Yes he would sit in front of the court in a suit, all clean shaven, maybe even have a tear or two, when he tells the judge how he has changed, how he has seen the light, maybe even found religion.

That he knows now that a child needs to know his father.

So the court sets up perhaps a counseling plan, a supervised visit plan, or even short unsupervised visits.
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