We have been together now for almost 4 yrs, in the beginning everything was hot and heavy! I have a very high sex drive and he said he was the same, he even told me that if the sex ever died off I should know there are problems! Well... Over the past year and a half I can say we've done it about 10 times, if that.. He's always tied or something, there is always an excuse. I'm 99% sure he's not cheating! And no he still masturbates. I have brought it up several times and get no answer I'm just left feeling guilty! He also spend ALL his time playing computer games! And I feel he wants me and his work life separate. ( does not invite me to work functions) please help! Were going over seas next week and I feel like crap!

My boyfriend won't have sex with me either! We are both in late 20's, we live together, he is ashamed to show me his body and when I ask about our boring sex life, he gets mad and says that's why. Says it's the stress I put on him. No lie, I very rarely ask him about it. He can't say he's always tired, as he has done before, because he's always doing stuff after work around the house, his hobbies & other things. I don't do anything anymore. Sometimes go to bed early hoping he will come in. He doesn't. I don't understand it. We prob have sex 2-3 times a month. I have a high sex drive, and still in the blooming stage of our relationship so why do men do this? What can I do to make it mutual? Oh, and we have not even had a passionate kiss since the first 2 weeks we were together. I'm going crazy! I want love! Not a lazy peck on the lips or an emptiness inside me every time I go to bed. :)

Ladies , it funny what time does to us men! We love it a lot in the beginning, then as time goes on it fades a bit, its not that we don't love you, its not that we don't find you sexually attractive, its us! A man will always masterbate, and we can because we do it weather we are hard or only semi hard, we don't with our ladys cause if we aren't rock solid we are embarissed or even ashmed. BUT there is always a way to get us going! But it takes a lot of different things. Different places, toys, outfits, spontinuity, and a lot of other stuff. We need difference when we fall in a rut. We need to be mind****ed in a way that our bodys have no choice. That's all I can say about that