I have been with a guy for nearly 2 years now, he doesn't want to live with me, and we only see each other at weekends, not even weekdays, every time I mentioned about marriage, he always said we should find out whether we were right for each other. I am making every effort as I can in this relationship, when he comes over to my home, I prepare nice yummy fresh meals, when I went to his home, he let me eat canned pumpkin soup, and his fridge is empty most of the time. I am not sure what he meant by right person, should this be something you find out after 6 months or 1 year, or it really takes 2 or 3 or 4 years to find out if someone is right for you?

After nearly two years of pumpkin soup,don't you think it's pretty obvious that he's the wrong person for you?

Leave him to his empty fridge,you deserve much better than this Scrouge of a commitment phobe.

If he is unsure after two years, then its time for you to make a decision to continue this way, or make another choice for yourself. If he isn't as sure as you are, then you can't make him. Don't try any more, as you have done your part, back up, and let him do his. If he can't waste no more time on him.

I'm definitely in the same boat as you. My boyfriend told me he needed space so he could figure himself out. We haven't talked in 2 weeks and I have no clue when he'll contact me. I only saw him on the weekends because of school/work. I guess guys just need some time to re-evaluate things? Which I think is stupid because it's not fair to us to have to be put on hold while they make their final decision. My advice is not to try too hard and give him some space even though you don't see him that often.