Hello
I have recently began to date and WOW rules changed/ health issues/Knowing sex is in the air- but valuing myself and reason to hold out. Is there a place I could just get a list of STANDARDS or things to think about first. I am just having coffee with several men, I do intend to be monogamous once a relationship begins, but perhaps that isn't his intent. CONFUSED and looking for assistance.
Physically Fit and Older.

I have no idea why "Physically fit and older" is part of your reply. Your situation sounds like Internet dating.

Is it?

No, there is no list of standards of things to think about first. That's up to your and your moral code.

Now, if you're asking how to stay safe during the Internet dating process...

Hello JudyKayTee
Not sure I understand this process, or if this reply is going to you. Yes It is internet dating and I'm concerned with my being naïve. Just beginning dating after years of NOT. Reading Steve Harvey's book now Act like a Lady Think like a man, don't want to be taken advantage of I lean toward trusting which can hurt me.
Thanks

Talaniman Rule - Date them all, short, fat, skinny, or tall! 18 - 80, blind, cripple, or crazy!Talaniman Rule- Never ever mess with any one who has just dumped their partner

Talaniman Rule- Stay away from any one that has an ex involved in their lives.

Talaniman Rule - Never ever get to close to a person that has a committed partner in their lives.


Talaniman Rule- never be in a hurry to give your heart to a stranger. Wait until they have proven they deserve it, and know what to do with it.

Talaniman Rule- Doesn't matter how intense the feelings, or how much fun you have, never give your heart to someone you don't know well, and that’s only after the lust has worn off for you both.



Talaniman Rule- If one person isn't available, there are millions that are. Don't get stuck on one who is BUSY with other things.

Talaniman Rule- Get your own partner and leave the other peoples partners alone.

Talaniman Rule- Give yourself 6 months of dating and getting to know someone, before you decide together to be DATING EXCLUSIVELY, and having fun getting to know each other.

Talaniman Rule-Never put all your eggs in a stranger’s basket. Save some for your own basket.

Talaniman Rule-if they don't like you, forget 'em.

Its all about protecting your heart, and having good clean adult fun as you get to know someone. And not get carried away by your own intense feelings.

It's a matter of finding someone compatible with you, who respects your wishes and will start a relationship with you going at the pace that you're comfortable with.

If you're not on the same page from the start, then it takes hard work to get on the same page. Once you understand each others expectations, then you can move forward with each other.

The trick is to have your own rules for proper behavior, and stick with them.

Absolutely, as I said from the beginning it's a question of your own morals and values. When I began to date after being widowed I found I had to date a LOT of toads before I found a Prince.

I was never lonely enough or desperate enough to actually kiss any of those toads and the pressure to do so was often intense.

I was interested in a life partner; the majority of the men I met, mostly through friends, were looking for a fling. Not man bashing. That's just how it was for me.

You set the rules for YOU, there are far too many married men on the internet looking for one night stands, ( some some women to)

There are many people men and women, who just want to date have regular sex and free to date others.

And then there are dozens of other from one extreme to the other. You decide what you want, and how fast you want to go and that determines it