Girlfriend says she needs time and if its meant to be we will be back together.
So my girlfriend and I have been going out for 4 1/2 years and out of no where she sent me a text saying she can't be with me anymore and then I called her and she was crying and says she needs time alone right now. I was shocked, all her best friends and my best friends were shocked and my mother was shocked. She says that she loves me but her feelings for me have changed and she doesn't know if she wants this anymore. I sent her a text reminding her that I love her and she doesn't answer back or answer my phone calls so should I give up and just give her time and hope is works out? I feel if I do that I could lose her forever.
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Yes I asked her why she didn't talk to me about this and she says she has been feelings like this for a couple weeks and has tried making it works but wants some times and can't be with me right now. I really hope this time makes her realize what she has lost and if not I will be very upset :/ but if it works it could bring us closer than we"ve ever been. I just can't imagine myself with anyone else. I am only 19 and she was my high school sweetheart and says that she just doesn't love me like she used to and says its not at all me its all her.
Girlfriend says she's not attracted to me like she use to be.
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So I am 19 years old about to be 20 and my girlfriend is 19 and about to be 20 too. We have been dating for 4.5 years and everything has seemed fine. She all of a sudden broke up with me and said she needs time to be alone right now and said she doesn't feel the same attraction she use to feel towards me.
She has currently lost 40 pounds and reached her goal and I've been through everything with her. I loved her for who she was and thought she was beautiful no matter what.
She broke up with me through a text and 2 days ago and she sent me a text saying she wants to talk to me more because she feels terrible about how she broke up with me. I want to know is there anything I can do to help her change her mind, or should I just be open minded, and go and listen to her, and accept this.
And how does a girl all of a sudden stop being attracted to the person she's been dating for that long. I told her I'd make anything to make this work and have granted her wished and have been giving her time and not hassling her. None of her friends are on her side with her decision and they back me up 100% and don't understand why she is doing this and how you can just stop loving someone like that.