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  • Mar 23, 2011, 03:03 PM
    georgiaellenpri
    Cannot see sense. Broken hearted?
    Basically I am still so young, I know you may just see this and ignore it since I said that but... I had a boyfriend for 10 months a year ago, he was my first proper boyfriend and I we really made a go of it he claimed he loved to to pieces I was always a ***** and just was like thanks and fine... but we finished a year ago a 2 weeks later he had a new girlfriend which hurt large amounts but I always thought it was a rebound until my friend told me that the chain I bought him he is selling.. and how he shags countless amounts of girls and so on after seeing him all the time thought out the ten months he completely cut me out of his life :/

    The pain I feel is uncontrollable I can barely cope its not just once in a while everyday.. my heart is breaking as if I am being stabbed I fall asleep crying on a regular basic, it kills me to see him happy but I am unable to forget I promise myself I will but I never do, I am a very loud person and happy but I think its all fake and when I am alone I feel so so alone I have the most amazing friends but Its so so hard... I can't find anyone else because I know I will compare them to the innocent love I once experience and I never would want anyone ever to feel like I doo... and its true you can love at any age and I do not want to live with a broken heart...
  • Mar 23, 2011, 04:21 PM
    talaniman

    That first break up hurts us so bad and we have no experience in our lives to compare it to. But as you learn, and grow you will cope with your feelings better and learn to do the things that allow you to heal, like hanging with friends and doing things you enjoy.

    All break ups suck, but we learn to deal with them as we learn to deal with all the situations we find ourselves in.
  • Mar 23, 2011, 04:46 PM
    Alty

    I have to spread the rep Tal, but I agree.

    I'm 40 years old and I still remember my first breakup. Man did it hurt. But, after a while the pain wasn't so bad, then I met someone else and moved on.

    You're going to go through many breakups before you meet the one. You yourself said it, you're still young.

    I know that right now it feels like the world is falling apart, you can't stop crying, you can't stop thinking about him, and when you're alone you sometimes feel like it's never going to get better.

    Trust me, it will.

    Get busy with other stuff, surround yourself with friends, go have fun. If you feel sad, write it down in a journal, pour your heart out. One day you'll look back at those words and see that it really wasn't as bad as you thought it was.
  • Mar 27, 2011, 11:39 PM
    youngandafraid
    Listen its tough believe me. But sweetie look he obviously didn't really appreciate you for you. I know your young and won't fully understand this but in your life there unfortunately will be a lot more like him. But the best way to let go is move on. Right noww it feels unbearable and that the pain will never go away but in time it will. You need to just take everything that remind you of him and get rid of it. Find some fun things to do with your friends! Find someone new. But don't let him control your life. That's letting him win
    Good luck hun hope I helped a little
  • Apr 8, 2011, 08:29 AM
    geopri
    I think your dwelling I think you are thinking how could you have changed the situation? The first cut is the deapest but think how he felt when you blew him off, probelrly half as bad as you feel I think it will take time and there is nothing you can do to avoid the pain sadly it makes you a better person from every bad experience you will always take something positive out of it you learnt young where as if you had kids and what not trust me it will get better I promise you I have finnially stopped thinking about someone who was important to me and now I miss missing them you with meet somebody maybe in time who will restore your faith in love but time is the greatest healer xxx

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