I have been seeing my boyfriend for 4 years and don't plan to marry. Since he went back to uni we had sex 4 times and that has been 7 months, he hasn't been well but when I wasn't well last year he threatened to break up with me. I have now lost the will to carry on pushing for sex. Why should I! We have both put on a bit of weight which might have something to do with it but mostly it seems to be how stressed he is. He takes his stress out on me too. I love him and don't want to lose him but He treats me like **** most of the time.

How are you meant to know when enough is enough?