How could she do this? How is this possible? FEEDBACK PLEASE
Okay, so here's the story...
Me and this girl were together for 3 years. We are both currently 22 yrs old. It was both of our first loves. I was her first everything (love, sex etc)
She was nearly obsessed with me. Constantly giving me gifts, writing letters, txting me 5x a day, saying I love you and begging for attention. We were a VERY close couple, kind of best friends and saw each other all the time.
6 months into the relationship I moved back to school 200 miles away and we did long distance for the rest of the relationship.
Now... 2 months ago it was my xmas break. Our relationship wasn't perfect, her constant nagging for attention was never satisfied and I am very busy with school etc. (she graduated and works at a candy store, her degree isn't very good for jobs). Over xmas she started really getting upset AND she was getting closer and closer to this guy-friend of hers (who has a girlfriend too btw).
On New Years eve she ditched me and went to a party with that guy because I told her I would be late for our date... so she just canceled...
On New Years eve she ended up getting drunk and making out with her "friend"... she told me that it was just a peck on the cheek so I didn't think too much of it but was still quite upset...
Next day, when I return to school she calls me and says she wants to break up because there's too much arguing and problems... I beg and plead and tell her I will give her more attention... she calls a couple hours later and takes me back...
Over the next two weeks she dumped me 4 times... each time I try to explain to her she is making a mistake... finally, 2 weeks after New Years she says that it is over and by that time I accept it... I emailed her a final letter that night too for closure...
I find out from mutual friend that she wanted to pursue that guy who has a girlfriend from New years... but apparently the guy ignores her and tells her he loves his girlfriend and is sorry...
That was happening while she was dumping and taking me back...
A couple weeks after we break up... we maintain low contact... she tells me she loves me and msises me but doesn't want to come back because of that... she says its not fair for me to come back just because she is lonely and settling for me... she says I deserve someone who loves me because I am a great guy... ***?? This from the girl who was obsesed with me...
Now, since we broke up she had been getting closer to that guy's best friend, call him John... basically they are friends because John is her connection to that guy from New Years... John had a girlfriend too...
HERE COMES THE TWIST... John dumps his girlfriend and ends up sleeping with my ex-gf...
Two months into the break she is already ****ing John... the ugly best friend of that other guy who ignored her...
She tells me (b/c we were in low contact) that he is nice and she didn't expect to "have feelings" for him too but he takes care of her and is always coming around effortlessly...
I tell her at this point I no longer want to have any contact with her and that I may never see her again... she says she is sad and says she wants me to be OK and cares about me but also accepts that I want nothing to do with her... (after three years of calling my 5x a day she doesn't care that I may be gone forever ***)
Now just a few facts at this point :
1) She told me she wants to break up because she wants to be single and learn to love herself and be independent (bull****)
2) she said "im keeping my guard up with John b/c I dont want to be messed with or used anymore"... (took the guy one week to **** her once he dumped his gf)
3) "I don't like drinking alcohol, I'm not that type of girl...and you know me, I won't sleep with someone unless we are in a close, loving relationship"
4) I warned her that these guys are only her friends to **** her and I warned her that her breaking up with me is not going to improve her love for herself... (I was the one always motivating her in school and hobbies.. in reality she is very emtpy and lazy...
HERE COMES THE SECOND TWIST
So now, two months after breaking up, she is ****ing that dudes best-friend (who I assume had this plan from the beginning but she probably thinks its spontaneous).
And now I hear from a mutual friend - HE IS SUCCESSFULLY CONVINCING HER TO HAVE AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP HAHAHAHA
Within two weeks of ****ing her she is going to basically have this guy as a **** buddy and start ****ing other dudes too... also my friend tells me she has started drinking during the week with this guy and smoking a bit of weed...
This guy has turned my ex into a slutty girl within two months... what happened to all her **** about love and respect?? She was virgin who wanted to marry me and was in a committed loving relationship for three years...
Within in exactly three months she has gone from telling me I am the love of her life and I am so perfect for her, that we should have a future together and that I am the only one... to having multiple sexual partners and drinking...
I KNEW this was going to happen... I always detected a naivety and a lack of self-esteem... she is boosting her ego by ****ing these loser dudes who live with their parents and smoke weed all day??
How can she throw me away? How can she be like this? HOW CAN SHE BE SO HYPOCRITICAL?? Will she realize she is making a mistake? Will she feel any guilt for this behavior? Our love was very deep (so I thought) and the sex was very intimate... she just wants to be banged by strangers now??