My daughter hates me and my heart is hurting and I'm confused
Hi,
My name is Denise and I am so confused and hurt I need help.So let me give you some history about my daughte who is 24 and myself who is 47.. It took me 3 years to get pregnant and when my daughter was born I felt blessed.She grew up very spoiled with gifts from grandma and lots of love from her father and myself and her brother t 14 she was diagnosed with 3rd tage ancer and asked me to promise never to leave her side and I promised so for the next year and a half we lived in a hospital fighting for her life I was told she would not survive.As promised I never left her I spent 24/7 with her and I was scared.. Our family fell apart after she came home (not due to her cancer) After that we wore on our own her in a wheelchair unable to walk .I eventually had to return to work this caused so much stress I began to have seizures .I met man who she seamed to adore and he taught her to walk again helped financially and baught my daughter a car all eamed well we got her back in school where she met her future husband .all the time we had a close relationship.. I let her boyfriend move in because he had a troubled home and the world started to feel normal again .After a few moves do to financial problems.My daughter started college and during this time I heard from a friend my daughters boyfriend was telling hurtfull lies about me.. example of this he told peopl I sold her wheelchair and made her crawl on hands and knees,I sold her laptop while she was recovering and other very nasty things I was crying when she got home and she seamed very upset with him and said if he said anything else false she would leave him.Things seamed fine for awhile they got married and only told me 4 days before and involved me in nothing and didn't even tell her father,brother or anyone else in her family when I asked about why I found out4 days before she said because that's when he asked ( I didn't believe it then and I still don't)He joined the ARMy and was stationed in Germany and as she was their visiting he was deployed to Iraq.I was outside paccking her things to move to Germany and my things to move into another place,when to Army men walked up my drive.. I new he was gone that day my daughter begged me not to leave her and not to move again I did this for my child fter this the real trouble began We got through all the things that wore extremely heartbreaking.. As I mentioned I have seizures at the airport on the way to the dinified transfer I bhad what is called an Aura wich happens before a seizure you become extremely confused not noiing who you are or where your at and of course you can not get on a plane like this my daughter has witnessed this and knows next comes the seizure.. so I was left wondering around an airport not knowing who I was the found me in a bathroom in the early morning hours and called the police who called an mbulance hen I came to they filled me in I incisted I had to get to my daughter not realising she had left me in the airport to fin for myself.This I did not know for a few months to come.. We went into mourning it was a dark rough time a few months after his passing we had went to the store I was having trouble walking because I had water on the knee after a bad surgery,I was in massive pain and the knee was swollen bad I asked her to take me to emergency she refused and started screaming at me then she called my son and said I was screaming at her ,I started crying this hurt so I got home and cried privatly in my room she came to the door nocked when I did not respond rite away she sked if she needed to call 911 so they could get me mental help for being upset and said because I might commit suicide (never have I thought about taking my own life or threatened to do so)things excalated from here fast and bad.. wehad a few arguments over the next few months and every time she screamed she wished she was dead and wished the cancer had taken her.I begged her to get help .That never happened.. she got nastier with me s time went by .Then she started seeing an old girlfriend of hers her so called friend was not 21 but had been drinking heavily for numerous years and was a severe alcoholic I discussed this with my daughter who whole heartedly agreed and the her friend introduced her to all her drinking buddies they call themselved The red neck rrinking team it is a mob of drunks that drin till they black out ,sleep around and destroy homes,cars,peole they don't care so my girl went from mourning to drinking and she got ***** slapped into the drinking team.Party's at home nightly omce they figured out she had money and a place to gather at.So while I was still mourning the partys began she even had big one the day my Mother passed away .They partied 7 days a week my neighbors called the police night after night they didn't care or stop we had a disabled neighbor one with a new baby one in a wheelchair when I confronted my daughter she said she could care less,I was getting no sleep and she said she would calm it down that made it worse they tore up my house left a mess put cigarretts out in our food and they wore all drinking and driving of course we kept arguing about these things after months of this I put in a 30 day notice to move.. not only did I find out she also drinks and drives but has been telling peopleI am crazy and how I am a pill popper and that she does't miss her husband and how she is doing great that her only problem is her crazy mother I also through watching and listening to her with friends have found out she lies a lot so now I have no idea if her husband was saying those vile things or if it was my daughter.I moved in with her father a month ago because we have been planing to retire together,she fallowed me here and told friends I fallowed her and that I should be homeless and under a bridge but she saved me,how do I know this her friends attacked me on Facebook for 4 hours as she watched and let them when I took a break from the madness and went to an old friends when I got home she has removed me as her mother off face book... Help I have begged her to get away from these people and to prove she does not have a drinking problem but that didn't happen.So at this point we are not speaking in her eyes I am no longer her mother.. P.S She now goes to a club called bondage a go go and yes it is sexual bondage acts.. I had also found out she was drunk in a shower with a girl who has a sexualy transmitted diseae