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Is being a virgin something that girls frown upon

Hey, my name's Logan and I just wanted to know that since I'm 19 and a virgin is that a bad thing. I've had lots of chances that I could've taken but I couldn't bring myself to do it. I've seen too many guys take advantage of girls and treat the like they're only good for sex and I hate it and I ended up getting kicked out of school for always getting into fights for sticking up for girls. The only time that I was going to sleep with a girl was my ex, who was also a virgin but she got scared and so I told her not to worry and we didn't have to sleep togeth and that that's not why I was with her. I'm kindof wondering if I mad a mistake of not sleeping with any one when I could've because when I do find another girlfriend I don't want her to be mad when it gets to that point because I won't really know how to at first. So please any girls just let me know what I should do about it all.

A female who cannot accept you for who, and what you are, is not for you any way.

Honestly, being a virgin is your business, and no one else's so why tell them until you know them very well.

I mean does it make sense to say, "Hi my name is ????, and I am a virgin, who would like to go out with you". That's a weird rap now isn't it?

logan hun I'm am 28 and I lost my viganity at 6 I was raped and if I cuold have changed that I would have .I find it better to have married a person that was a virgin and that loveed me then a person who doesn't u see what I mean. It OK to be a virgin then be a person who isn't lease you can say you are clean and no stds. Lol. And if she cannt understand that then she really was not the girl for you hun good luck out there in this world its crul to the ones who are truthiful...

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Originally Posted by Logan.A.M.

Hey, my name's Logan and I just wanted to know that since I'm 19 and a virgin is that a bad thing. I've had lots of chances that I could've taken but I couldn't bring myself to do it. I've seen too many guys take advantage of girls and treat the like they're only good for sex and I hate it and I ended up getting kicked out of school for always getting into fights for sticking up for girls. The only time that I was going to sleep with a girl was my ex, who was also a virgin but she got scared and so I told her not to worry and we didn't have to sleep togeth and that that's not why I was with her. I'm kindof wondering if I mad a mistake of not sleeping with any one when I could've because when I do find another girlfriend I don't want her to be mad when it gets to that point because I won't really know how to at first. So please any girls just let me know what I should do about it all.

K sweet thanks guys

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Originally Posted by Logan.A.M.

I ended up getting kicked out of school for always getting into fights for sticking up for girls.

How many times has this happened?

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So please any girls just let me know what I should do about it all.

Like Tal said, your virginity is your business, and no one else's -- not even a date's or girlfriend's until you are very serious about each other. I'm glad you aren't another one of those young people who have no self discipline or, dare I say, morals, who sleep with anything that moves. But don't make virginity your whole reason for being and the center of your soul. Relax, date, and have fun!

I've been like that ever since the first time I saw a guy disrespect a girl so I was prety young when it first started ( since grd 7?) but I've only gotten kicked out once, they just had enough of me I guess, and I need up getting into a bit of a scrap with a teacher thinking it was one of that kids friends so that didn't help. I hate fighting but I'll do it if I feel I need to stick up for someone. Thank you for answering my question, it's given me confidence knowing it's not something to be ashamed of.

Its absolutely nothing to be ashamed of and its also not even an issue! If it was an issue with a future girlfriend then she's not the one for you.

This sticking up for the ladies has to stop though, you jepordising your furture career by getting yourself into silly childish fights for people that will most likely forget about it the next day, you need to start looking after number one and start thinking about your future.

And actually if I'm honest I look down on people that do this and I certainly frown upon it. I see nothing wrong with standing up for yourself in a sticky situation but I think its stupid to put yourself in harms way for the sake of acting the hero.

Yeah I see what your saying for sure.

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Originally Posted by Logan.A.M.

Yeah I see what your saying for sure.

I'm glad you do :)