OK, so I first really talked to the first girl a while after I met her, I thought she was hilarious and I really liked her a lot, and we started hanging out a lot more. She is a little more out going then the second girl. A little while after that, I met the second girl, who is VERY shy. She started to hang around the kinds of people I generally avoid, but never seemed happy around them. She's friends with this girl that kind of follows me around, and that's how we first met each other. But she never spoke more than three words, very quietly when I was there. Some people I know organised a dance about a week later, and we danced a couple times and when we were talking more, she seemed like one of the coolest people I've ever met. She also I noticed that she lost a necklass a bit before I met her, it was made from a bottle cap, so I made another one that looked justr like it for her. I was just doing it as a friendly jesture, usually I'm very calm and can contain my emotions, and I'm fine talking to girls but when I gave it to her, I started calm, but as soon as I got her attention, I kind of freaked out and gave it to her really fast then she said thanks really softly, and then I pretended I had to go somewhere fast, without even thinking. And I can't shake the feeling that I've done something wrong.

I don't think you need to sort out your feelings in such a hurry, so you like 2 girls, once your not dating them both your doing nothing wrong! Continue getting to know them just as friends and eventually things will sort themselves out, but be good! Don't date them both or you will look like a jerk.

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Originally Posted by adviceishere

i dont think you need to sort out your feelings in such a hurry, so you like 2 girls, once your not dating them both your doing nothing wrong! continue getting to know them just as friends and eventually things will sort themselves out, but be good! dont date them both or you will look like a jerk.

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I agree, but I say date them all, casually. Then you can chose who fits the best. The difference between me, and a jerk is being honest, and don't lead anyone on, or make promises you can't keep. That means staying within the boundaries of good behavior. And make friends, and leave the romance stuff until after you have made a decision as to what you want.

The thing is though, that before I met the second girl, someone told me that she liked me, but I didn't know who she was then, and I literally had no time to think about it because I was actually in the middle of a volleyball game when the person told me, and I don't know if I'm hurting her feelings or making her dislike me because I talk to the first girl a lot.

What part of being honest, and stay within the boundaries of good behavior did you not understand?

Make a mistake? Apologize!

What I mean is will that hurt her feelings?

Spend time with each of them, keep it on a friendship level, if you date, keep the dates casual, and don't get physically involved with any of them. If anyone asks how you feel about the girls, be honest and the rumor mill will work for you - just say, "she's really cool and I want to get to know her better". If you are pressed to say which girl you like best, just be honest and admit you aren't sure yet because you have met some really nice people but don't know any of them well enough.

As hard as you try, you can't please everyone, and hurt feelings are the product of our actions sometimes. Its regrettable, but shouldn't stop you from doing the right thing in a honest way.

Thanks for all the advice

For anyone who cares, I've decided that its probably best to just be friends with girl one and girl two moved away last week

Thanks for the update-take care.