Is there such a thing as poor or bad foreplay and...
- does a person have to have lots of foreplay experience before to know what he's doing?
I was feeling insecure recently and asking my boyfriend if he ever compares the foreplay we do to the one with his ex. He said there's nothing to compare as ours is different, its based on love, and we both Know and Understand what we are doing.
He said he regretted his with his first ex cause they didn't love each other, it was in the heat of the moment and both didn't know what they were doing, and he felt very very sinful and guilty for not keeping to his values when they almost had sex. The girl initiated these things.
He only has that one experience with a girl, although he said their foreplay was based on whenever there's a feeling. I have two questions:
1) why would any man regret foreplay with a girl? Wrong girl, or just a plain bad experience? Since both didn't know what they were doing..
2) are there any signs a man is very experienced at foreplay? What would make him look like a pro? My boyfriend just knows the usual erogenous zones on a girl, but err that's all. A few times at the beginning he pinched me up there too hard, and once when he was stimulating me down below - just rubbing - he was really rough and there was a lot of pain, he only touches me there if I'm wearing underwear. Usually he just kisses me ard my jaw or just my mouth and just strokes my body.. does all these indicate lots of experience?
sorry if I was too detailed!
Comment on Fr_Chuck's post
Thank you:) hmm I really Don't want to qn him cause I don't want to know haha. I just don't know how to control my thoughts sometimes.. really. I need help on that one. Lol. Believe me, he made some blunders very early on in the relationship cause he kept talking about his stuff with his exes and I got hela annoyed. He said that he wanted to be honest, that's all. And so I trust him when he says he doesn't compare. He's not someone who lies very well.
Comment on talaniman's post
Don't think I want to say the specifics publicly. But all in all, I'm not sure if I want to be with him for a long time that's all.