I'm married for 9years and I have 2 children, 7 and 4. My wife and I are going through a serious marriage crisis and I'm scared and lost. I don't know what to do. I love her but sometimes she says or does something and I loose it and say something that hurts her. Last week she was away for several days on work and when she came she said that she doesn't feel anything for me anymore. She said that started to feel attracted by other men. She really hurt me when she said that. Now I don't know what to do. I love my children above all else and until now I thought my marriage was stable.
Please advise. I'm really really afraid. I don't want my marriage to end.

I'm sorry to hear that you are having problems. You've come to a good web site that has some excellent relationship experts on it. They will offer suggestions that you can consider and perhaps try out.

Have the two of you ever talked about going for marriage counseling?

Maybe you need some help in finding a better way of communicating, and dealing with your wife besides losing it, and saying hurtful things.

I think that things MAY just change, if she sees that you are trying to do things in a better way.

We talked for hours today. She said that she feels nothing for me anymore. I pleaded with her for a chance to do better and so far she agreed, but more because of our children.
I want this to work above all. I cannot see my life without her and the children. I would loose everything. I will ask her to go with me to counseling.
Thank you for your advice.