Hi I'm 15 and recently I went to a party I was pretty wasted drunk and id had a few pills I was sexualy assulted by two guys I was taken to the hospital they did a rape kit and the police came to talk to me I refused to talk to them or give them my name I didn't want my parents to find out I ended up walking out when no one was around I've tried to get over it but I keep on getting flassh backs to the point where I'm physically sick I just wanted to know if there was someway I can make this get out of my head I feel so sad all time my friends don't even like spending time with me anymore they think I just no fun I need help its ruining my life I don't want to talk about it with anyone I just want it to get out of my head help

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by goingmad

Hi im 15 and recently i went to a party i was pretty wasted drunk and id had a few pills i was sexualy assulted by two guys i was taken to the hospital they did a rape kit and the police came to talk to me i refused to talk to them or give them my name i didnt want my parents to find out i ended up walking out when no one was around ive tried to get over it but i keep on getting flassh backs to the point where im physicaly sick i just wanted to know if there was someway i can make this get outta my head i feel so sad all time my friends dont even like spending time with me anymore they think i just no fun i need help its ruining my life i dont want to talk about it with anyone i just want it to get outta my head help

---

You HAVE to tell someone, its not too late, your parents will be distraught if this comes out later on and its too late to punish these guys, and what if it happens to someone else, cause it will... they got away with it once so they may as well give it another try with another vunerable soul and then maybe another... and so on. No one is going to punish you for being sexually abused! Your parents might show signs of anger when you tell them but so would any parent and it will be anger at themselves more than likely. Then when or if you do tell them you can start to heal, you can go for counseling and get this behind you.

I don't want to tell my parents or talk to anyone else I just want to know can I can get it out of my head please its making me feel like I'm going crazy I acnt handle it I lied to my parents told them I was at a friends house but I wasn't I went to a party they would get so so mad and if they found out I was drinking and taking drugs that would be bad I just want to know how to make it all go away

I'm really sorry that your feeling so bad love, I really am. I don't judge you one bit for doing drugs or drinking, its not like you asked for this to happen so your not at fault, you done something wrong by drinking but what happened to you was no fault of your own! And no one will blame you!

And I'm sorry, I know you don't want to talk about it with anyone but this is actually the only way of learning how to deal with it, you NEED to talk about it with someone, anyone, you don't have to tell you parents (I advise you to do so) but there are a lot of helplines you could call such as rape crisis centres, there's support out there for you, you could go to the police again and tell them your afraid to tell your parents, you could go to your doctor and tell him your scared to tell your parents, a teacher at your school can help, anyone you trust, the only way of getting through this is talking to someone, it will never ever go away if you bottle it up.

There is no way you are going to get this out of your head on your own. You need professional help. If you won't talk with your parents, then you need to find a professional counselor. Maybe your school guidance counselor can help. You can also try a rape victims hotline. They will preserve confidentiality.

I know you don't want to hear this, but I think you need to re examine your friends. At 15 for you to get wasted drink on alcohol and pills indicates you are headed down the wrong path. If the crowd you hang with is into that type of activity then you need a new crowd.

And frankly, I would confess to your parents. I would tell them that you know you messed up big time. And its been a wake up call and you want to change, but you need their help.

One last point, you need to check to make sure you aren't pregnant. Because that possibility exists and if you are, the likelihood is your parents will find out.

I'm so ashamed of what happened how could I let this happen if I tell someone them will say its my fault for getting so drunk and off my head and blame me I can't talk about it I just want it to go away I feel like it is my fault I can't tell my parents what will they think of me.I haven't even though about if I might br pregnant the people at the hospital were going to give me the morning after pill but I was so ashamed I just had to get out of there is it to late now to take one it happened 1 week ago I'm so scared and I just feel like I want to die I can't deal with this I want it to go away

Sexual assault happens to far too many people in the world and not all of them where drunk or on drugs when it happens, this is not your fault, you should not be ashamed and if people blame it on you then they're just as bad as someone that does the crime! In my opinion.

The morning after pill will not work now, its too late, you need to talk to someone, like scottgem said, your school counselor will be perfect, please stop blaming yourself!

I'm sorry, but you ARE, at least partially to blame. You are 15 and had NO business going to a party where alcohol and drugs were available. And especially not partaking of them to the point where you were wasted. You have to accept and understand that you made the wrong choices. But what will define you as a person is how you deal with the consequences of those choices. And hiding from those consequences is NOT the answer. You WILL feel better about yourself if you stand up and take control. You need to go after the punks who attacked you. Because, considering your condition they are even more to blame. Taking advantage of someone who is too drunk to protest is wrong. The good thing is they did a rape kit. They will have your blood alcohol level. You are underage so you can't legally have consented. So I think the police have a very good case.

I think if you find that you use this event to turn your life around, you will come out the better for it.

I can't go after the people that did this to me I don't even know who thet were I just remember being in an ambulance going to the hospital I know its my fault I should have never got so wasted I think about it all the time I'm so stupid I just don't know what to do I don't know how I cwn speak to anyone about this I just want to forget about it pretend like it never happened I just don't know how to stop myself thinking about it.

That's up to the police. Assuming the rape kit has DNA evidence, then can test EVERYONE who was at the party.

But you aren't "stupid", being young and inexperienced and foolish is not the same as stupid.

That's why we have therapists. These are people trained to know how to get you to talk and how to show you how to deal with things like this. Another choice is asking the police for a rape victim counselor. You have to get it through your head that you CANNOT deal with this alone, nor do you have to.

I'm so scared I think id rather not talk about it with a counselor I just want to forget.I would like to know how long do you have to wait to take a pregnancy test?

Quote:

---

Originally Posted by goingmad

ihow long do you have to wait to take a pregnancy test?

---

You have to wait to see if you miss your period.

OK thank you