Girlfriend is a baby momma and she still didn't tell me till this day
I've been with this girl for almost a year now and we love each other, but I recently found out that she has a 3-4 year old kid and she still didn't tell me about it. This has been very stressful for me not to confront her about it, because her life is very messed up, all she do is think about partying and shopping with no sense of direction in life. I've been trying my best to help her to get back to school and find a proper day time job, and I can see that she is trying some what to make changes in her life for the good of her self, but problem now is that I found out that she has a kid and till this day she still didn't tell me... If I confront her now and leave her, she will get extremely emotional and hide from her problems even more and just do worst with her life. I think to myself after I found out about this baby, why do I still care and respect her so much when she can hide this big of a secret from me. I honestly don't know what to do, I love her very much but she is just so irresponsible with her kid and her own life. Her mother takes care of the baby at her mom's place out town away from here, and she hardly even go home to see her kid ad family. I can understand that she may be afraid to tell me in the beginning of the relationship, because she doesn't know me well and if she tells me I may leave right away. But we've been together for almost a year now and we are very close with each other we spend almost everyday together. My close friend and I believe that she may be very afraid to lose me because I've been a very good boyfriend to her and if she does tell me I will leave her for good. All my close friends tell me the most rational thing to do is to walk away now before I get hurt more. Honestly If she was a very responsible mom that realize her responsibilities and is working hard to support her kid, then it would make this so much easier for me to understand that she is a baby momma that is trying her best to take care of her kid and that she tells me about this situation in the beginning of our relationship I would respect her and still be with her. But she is hiding it till this day... after I found out about the baby I think to myself she must think about this problem with the baby and my relationship all the time... isn't it hard to feel so guilty not telling me and seeing me treat her so good as a boyfriend... What do I do!?