How can I develop trust in my relationship?
My partner and I have been together for 2 years and at the beginning everything was fine. Except I kept a secret from her about a friend I had slept with 2 years previous. I told her 3 months into our relationship. She said she no longer trusted me but would try to rebuild it. We then had a break 6 months later because it just wasn't working. During this time she had been flirty texting some blokes but that was OK I could deal with that. We got back together a month later. However during a night out her cousin told me she had slept with one of her work mates on a night out. I confronted her about it and she said she didn't, her cousin did. So I asked her cousin who denied it. I decided to let it go but keep my guard up and try to deal with it however, my trust in her has gradually gotten out of control. I hack into her Facebook account and emails. The other day I was curious as to why she was being strange so I has a snoop at her messages on Facebook and found one from a bloke who she'd told to email her works email (which I can't read) this made me sick to my stomach, I really can't deal with it. We've argued constantly for 3 days none stop, neither of us knows what to do for the best.
We have had some fantastic times, and most of the time it is a great relationship (ive just told you the issues) but I need to know how I can learn to trust her. Someone help please!
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Its mad that I know all of this and we've both said this but this doesn't help as to how I can restore my trust. Tips etc