He informed me Xmas day he wanted a divorce. Then, he wanted to work things out. I informed him he would have to give up the girlfriend. I just found a Facebook post from this morning. Some sort of poetry to her and how her name is tatooed on his heart. I have no more patience with this. He has told me he is a "pla'a". I want to work things out. How can I get him to commit or quit?

He said he is a player; so he has admitted he is a jerk really. You want to make more time for him, go ahead, but a player never quits so don't feel bad. Move on, let him play.

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You already gave him the option and he chose to continue on with it. You need to tell him "marriage counseling or a divorce' because you are not going to put up with this. He also need to see a therapist to help him figure out what he is doing and WHY.

Leave him! He's already told you he's a player and he's proven it to you over and over. Don't stick around and allow him to rub it in your face and make a fool of you. You deserve much better than that!