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  • Mar 16, 2011, 07:26 AM
    Linnette1973
    Should I trust him or just move on..
    Been in a relationship with this guy for 1 year. We've had some growing pains but for the most part he's a good Man and I do care for him and he has expressed his love for me as well.

    He gets along well with my kids and that's great. The concern is we had a situation in November of 2010 where he was being jealous of my male Facebook friends openly commenting on my posts. Nothing flirtacious or anything just agreeing on different subject matters.

    However, I discovered he was befriended women and talking to them inviting them to call him so they can become acquainted. I confronted him about it and he lied but later told me he did because he was angry with me.

    Well I trusted him and now we're dealing with the same issue where he's befriended women and not wanting to tell me who they are and demanding I trust him.

    Well I'm more than concern because he's lied to me before and maintaining friendships with several women he's dated and these women have disclosed they had feelings for him.

    To protect myself and my children I want to just break it off because I feel he isn't trustworthy. He portraying himself as a "single" as in not in a relationship of public social sites and feels once again I should just trust his word.

    Well I'm not to trusting and settled with that. I don't want to be hurt or my children to be hurt. I try to speak with him about his intent if he wants to try to work things out and his response is.. I have to stop being paranoid!. Please I have reason for my suspicions..

    Any advice is appreciated.
  • Mar 16, 2011, 07:42 AM
    adviceishere
    Oh my oh my, that Facebook thing is nothing but trouble if you ask me, myself and my boyfriend had endless problems being on that thing, its just not a good thing to be on. Can you guys make a deal to deactivate your accounts? We did this and things have never been better between us.

    Also, why on earth would someone partner say they're single when they're not! This just has WARNING written all over it and I can see why your paranoid, you guys need to have a serious chat, I would not like to tell you if you should end it or not because I may well be wrong but when there's no trust in a relationship there's no point in being in it.
  • Mar 16, 2011, 08:07 AM
    amicon

    Seems he's making a habit of going behind your back and lying to you-bad habit-red flag alert!

    Me,I would seriously consider whether this relationship is worthy of any effort.
  • Mar 16, 2011, 08:14 AM
    ironhide262
    Facebook strikes again! I have come to learn that in reagards to FB(and other social sites) while in a relationship it is extremely important to have a chat about expectations.If your partners FB page doesn't mirror their real life that's a very big problem. Yet, you do not want to jump the gun and be paranoid because they added a friend.
    I think communication is the key here and just as in any situation one needs to be wary of your partners actions. Don't assume or presume anything... ask... get the facts and act accordingly!
  • Mar 16, 2011, 06:15 PM
    talaniman

    Why are you struggling with trust issues for when he has lied, will lie, does lie. This isn't about trust but common sense, your boyfriend presents himself as single to the world to get women.

    End of trust.

    End of conversation.

    End of the relationship

    Protect yourself and your children.

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