Here is the thing... I have been dating this guy on and off for a little over 5 years and I am truly deeply in love with him. The thing is he is always the one to break up with me for any little thing and it reallly hurts me so when he comes back and apologizes I always take him back. Recently he ended things with me again and within two weeks we went out again but I looked through his phone and found out he had sex with another girl while we were not together, but we had only broken up for less than two weeks. So we went out on a date one night and that same night he text this girl about having sex and he went over. I did not know that until the next morning when I went over to his place to surprise and tell him I wanted him back. I looked through his phone and found out they had been having sex. I was so hurt cause he told me there had been no one else. Anyway he told me he still wanted me and it was up to me. So a few days later I said OK and he said no I don't want you its too much between us and all this stuff. I am so depressed. I hate that I know that I shouldn't want him but yet I am still so in love with him and want him. What do I do?

You should break up with him. He is taking you for granted. He knows he can leave whenever he wants and come back. You will be waiting for him with open arms. Now if you forgive him he is also going to know he can also cheat on you and get away with it. I would say totally move on and find someone else but if you are saying you are so in love then you still need to make a stand so he will stop taking you for granted. If he really loves you he will try to make things better if he doesn't then you know he doesn't worth it. It sounds like that relationship is toxic to you. Break ups are never easy but I think if you cut all ties you will feel so much better in few months. I know it is easier to say than do. So good luck!

Go no contact and start healing from the break up.

He's not treating you with any respect and you deserve much better.

You already caught him lying and cheating. How many more bad things does he need to do before you feel it's ready to break up?

You deserve better than this. It's time to move on.

I'm with everyone else here. Are you his doormat? You may "love" him, but he sure isn't showing that he loves you. Respect yourself and move on.

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Originally Posted by lonelygrl

I hate that I know that I shouldnt want him but yet I am still so in love with him and want him. wat do i do?

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You know that you shouldn't be with him, which is a good thing. It's going to be hard (it always is), but the best thing for you is to go no contact. That means that you don't make any attempts to contact him through any method, and you don't respond to any of his attempts to contact you. Furthermore, don't look at his social network profiles if he has any. Eject him from your life and you will heal, promise! You deserve better and once you find better you will be so grateful.