Im 15 years old and am very mature for my age according to my mom and step dad. They will leave me home alone while they go for trips out of town and stuff knowing I won't throw a party or anything. But these past two years have been really hard on me. Ive hard two best friends move away. A close family member kill himself and I have been bullied for 3 years by a ex close friend. Anyway, this past month I have been thinking about moving out to my boyfriends but he lives 8 hours away. So once I told my mother that all hell broke loose. But now that my mother and I are fighting about more things (me not going to school, her never being home ect) its making me want to move out even more. I don't know if my step dad knows what's going on and if he does he isn't saying anything about it. But I don't know what to do anymore. Im at the point where I just want to pack my things and leave. Im extreamly stressed and don't know what to do. Pleeeease help.

Sorry to hear about your problems with your mother PP.

As I said on your other, age of consent is 14, so its not illegal for you to have sex with your boyfriend.

No matter how bad it is with your mom, do NOT leave school.

I don't know what the drop out age is in Alberta, but that is irrelevant. Do NOT drop out.

Why is it so hard staying at home?

I am sorry about your friends moving away and your close family member and the fact your mom and step dad aren't around much, but moving in with your boyfriend would be a mistake.

Talk with your mother.

Ask her not to go on vacations during the school year anymore and be around for you.

Best advice is to sit down and talk calmly with your mother.

Pink Princess,

Just about everyone goes through times when they don't get along with their parents, especially at your age. So many people just want to give up and take the easy road, or at least what looks like the easy road.

It sounds like you are feeling lonely and misunderstood so moving in with your boyfriend will take you away from your problems and make you happy...

That is false hope! By leaving home you will leave your parents in anguish, in fact I am certain they would not allow it. You are not allowed to legally leave your home until you are 18. Your parents can have you arrested and brought back home... well at least that is how it is in the states. You are their daughter/step daughter, an I am sure they care about you and are not about to let you run off.

They may say you are mature for your age, but that does not mean you are capable of moving out and quitting school. It means you deal with things well, you are responsible and they trust you. That is very commendable. You contradict yourself when you talk about dropping out of school though. That is an immature way to think, and I think it is the worst decision you could ever make. You will struggle through life without an education, do you really want to make a decision now that will cause you to live that way for the rest of your life? Sure you can always go back to school later in life, but you will be behind everyone else. You will have to catch up, and well you may just not want to deal with that either.

Is your boyfriend still in high school? About to graduate? Is he still living at home? Does he plan on going to college? Does he have a job to support you? Do you really think that by moving in with him your life is going to be fixed? I assure you it is not. You are just trying to run away from being that responsible child your parents know you as.

You need to take a look around you and see the things that ARE good. I know its hard to think positively when you have had so many losses this early in life, but trust me you will be a better person by dealing with them, not running away. You are fortunate to have a mother and step father that trust you and want the best for you.

You remind me a lot of me when I was your age. I had a very difficult child-teen years as well. My dad died when I was 4, my mom was in jail when I was 8-12, my best friend moved away the summer before we were supposed to start high school, my older brother was homeless and causing me to get threats on his life at home and school... those are just the major things that made me feel like I was being dealt the worst hand of life ever...

But I always had family there to believe in me, and support me. When my mom got out of jail she and I became best friends. It took a lot of work cause I had hated her for leaving me, but in the end we both became stronger.

I was also always considered more mature by my mom and step dad. They did the weekend trips with me alone at the house. I even got in scream out fights with them about not getting to go visit my best friend that had moved away. I wanted to run away so many times. But in the in the end they knew better for me. They cared for me just as your parents care for you. You may think you know enough to go live on your own or with your BF, but really you don't. Your parents are the best bet you have for coming through all of this as a mature teenager and eventually an adult.

You should ask your mom to sit down with you and have a talk, no arguing, just listen to each other and figure out what is is that makes you both so angry with each other. Its not easy, trust me I know... Ive been there so many times. But it helps to be able to discuss these things and to actually hear what you both have to say instead of saying angry words back and forth that only cause a wall of anger and frustration.

You can do this. Your mom cares about you, she wants the best for you, you just need to let her know how your feeling and how everything just has you feeling down. She will be able to give you support and more understanding if she has a better idea of what you are going through. She most likely doesn't understand everything you are thinking and feeling... you need to let her know, and listen to what she has to say as well.

I wish you the best in all of this Pinkprincess. Life is not always easy, but giving up or trying to run away is not the answer. Prove your parents right and make the right decision. If you would like any more advice or encouragement, feel free to post some more, or you can message me privately, I would love to be there for you if you need it.

Keep your head up, you're a strong girl don't let things get you too down, k.:)

Shelly

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Originally Posted by PinkPrincess

Im 15 years old and am very mature for my age according to my mom and step dad. They will leave me home alone while they go for trips out of town and stuff knowing I wont throw a party or anything. But these past two years have been really hard on me. Ive hard two best friends move away. A close family member kill himself and I have been bullied for 3 years by a ex close friend. Anyways, this past month I have been thinking about moving out to my boyfriends but he lives 8 hours away. So once I told my mother that all hell broke loose. But now that my mother and I are fighting about more things (me not going to school, her never being home ect) its making me want to move out even more. I dont know if my step dad knows whats going on and if he does he isnt saying anything about it. But I dont know what to do anymore. Im at the point where I just want to pack my things and leave. Im extreamly stressed and dont know what to do. Pleeeease help.

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Hi sorry to hear thoese stuff that you said but never leave school cuse it help to your future and never leave home cuse one day your going to back and look for your family these are not a good reason to leave your house make some goo eXquZ and always human should have problem in there life because that makes you live your real life so LIVE AND ENJOY it.and your the only one that can solve your own problem and TALK not fight.
My english is messdup sorry :)