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  • Mar 14, 2011, 04:20 AM
    Lirpa93
    Need ex boyfriend back
    The guy I'm in love with broke up with me, says he hates me and we can't work at being friends. Although, we are forced to live together. He's avoiding me. I've done nothing wrong and he admits that but he feels nothing but anger towards me. How do I reach past his anger and find his emotion for me again he's buried?
  • Mar 14, 2011, 04:35 AM
    amicon

    You can't-if he doesn't want to communicate,there's nothing you can do.

    Can you move out?
  • Mar 14, 2011, 09:35 AM
    talaniman

    One of you has to go. That simple. Why is he angry with you?
  • Mar 15, 2011, 12:25 PM
    Lirpa93
    We have to live together. There's no alternative in the meantime.

    He's angry in general about stuff that's happened in our relationship that isn't my fault but he can't help but blame me...
  • Mar 15, 2011, 12:29 PM
    amicon

    If he feels nothing but anger and he hates you,has it occurred to you that you might not be safe living with him?

    I would move out,even if that meant moving in with a friend and sleeping on their couch.
  • Mar 15, 2011, 12:36 PM
    Lirpa93
    Unfortunately, I gave up everything to move to where he is. We lived together for a few months but I haven't met anyone here except his friends. I'm in the process of getting a job but I have no way to get out of here. :/
  • Mar 15, 2011, 12:49 PM
    amicon

    Ask your parents to help you out,you can't remain stuck living with a man who clearly has severe issues.
  • Mar 15, 2011, 09:22 PM
    Lirpa93
    True. But my parents aren't willing to help. So it's an awkward situation. :/
  • Mar 15, 2011, 10:23 PM
    talaniman

    Boy do you need a plan to get the heck out of there. I think you start with a local human resource facility, for some assistance and referrals not just for a job, but somewhere to live, they may even suggest a woman's shelter, or a homeless shelter for you to at least be able to get on your feet, and support yourself.

    Or you could give up trying to get him to like you, ignore him, and get your act together to leave by getting that job.
  • Mar 16, 2011, 12:05 AM
    amicon

    You need to shift your focus,Talaniman has given you a number of options-I strongly advice you to explore them.
  • Mar 16, 2011, 09:20 AM
    Lirpa93
    We don't have any of those places around here and even if we did, I'm not wanting to give up right yet.
  • Mar 16, 2011, 11:00 AM
    talaniman

    That's not true if you live in North America, or most industrial nations across the world, provide me with your area, and I will show you its not that hard to find what you need, as an additional option in case it doesn't work as you want it to.

    Now is the time for such a plan of action, before the stuff hits the fan.
  • Mar 16, 2011, 11:14 AM
    amicon

    What exactly is it that you don't want to 'give up'?

    It seems you are up the creek without a paddle-time to save yourself.

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