I had an abortion about 1 week ago. I feel so bad now I don't know how to explain it. But are you meant to feel this way or is it just me going insane ?

Most women feel bad after aborting a child. It's natural. Even if you made the right decision, it's still hard.

There is counseling available. Have you checked into that?

I tried at school but the consillor didn't really know how to help me.

School counselors aren't equipped to deal with this sort of thing.

Where did you get your abortion? They should have talked to you before hand about what would happen before, during, and after the abortion. They usually also give you a pamphlet with numbers to call in case you need help after the procedure. One of those numbers is likely a counselor, or a group counseling session for women that recently went through an abortion.

I'm not sure where I went sorry. But nah I never got anything from them to do with it

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im not sure where i went sorry. but nah i never got anything from them to do with it

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Um, what? What do you mean you're not sure where you went?

Unless it was done in a back alley by a butcher, they would have talked to you before the procedure was done. They would have given you a pamphlet, or at the very least a number to call in case something went wrong.

Call the number, find out where you went, and ask for the number of a counselor specializing in this.

Did Elijah or any of your parents go with you?

Does anyone know where you went?

Physically, psychologically, spiritually, and emotionally you have gone through (and are still going through) a very traumatic time. You definitely need to meet with someone right now to talk about what happened.

Umm yeah elijah and his mum went. But they have gone away for 10 days. And there is no service to text them or anything. And I don't have anything cause I left it at there house by accident with a whole lot of clothes so yeah.

Really? You are 16 years old and you don't know where you went? :eek:

I'm sorry DAnna, but there are so many holes in all of your stories that I'm beginning not to believe a word of any of it. It's very cruel to play with our emotions like that.

I have to agree with J_9 on this. While I can understand the trauma of an abortion. I cannot accept that you don't remember where you went. All of your answers here (and I haven't checked the other threads you apparently have) seem to be to counter the excellent advice you have been given.

Like first you say never got anything, then you say you "accidentally" left it at your boyfriend's house. And they have conveniently gone away where they don't have cell phone coverage.

Yes a school counselor may not be equipped to deal with this, but they would know someone who could and would recommend someone.

So if you can't remember the clinic you went to then you speak to the school counselor and ask them to recommend some support groups. If you have a Planned Parenthood center near you, go there.

But if you keep making excuses, your credibility is going to drop through the floor.

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But if you keep making excuses, your credibility is going to drop through the floor.

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It dropped through the floor for me in one of her early posts when she said she didn't know how far along she was and that she was going to ask her boyfriend.

I have to agree with J and Scott. I've had a funny feeling since her first thread.

If I'm wrong, then I hope that the OP takes the advice given and gets counseling. If I'm right, this is just a bored and lonely teen looking for some attention. This isn't the way to get it.

There are too many lies, too many excuses. We've all gotten pretty good at flushing out the posters that aren't being honest. I'd bet that we're right about this one. :(

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umm yeah elijah and his mum went. but they have gone away for 10 days. and there is no service to txt them or anything. and i dont have anything cause i left it at there house by accident with a whole lot of clothes so yeah.

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If you are alone you most certainly need the authorities in the Auckland area. New Zealand has some wonderful social service programs. I am sure they can help you. I can have someone from one of the agencies stop by your home if you need them to

What the heck I haven't. And I have actually taken all your adivce and actually done something. And yeah they planned to go camping ages ago this isn't going to stop them going. Far my life is hard enough and you guys saying that is making it worse. And how am I making excuses? I'm just trying to get help and I have and I've made this stuff better. If you have anything you want to askk to do with it ask me privately instead of saying itt on here and makling me sound bad