Daughter was removed,wife remarried had a son got pregnant again cps took all 3 kids,mother was abusing heroin and the kids lived in filth mother failed to bring my daughter to dr's for 1 year 3 months even after the mother crashed a car and everyone almost died,cps took kids told mother and her husband to complete programs etc to get kids back,mother got arrested, for petit larceny and heroin possession, the courts doing nothing granted her more supervised visits with the kids,I'm at a loss no one is protecting my child,see the children are in a different county and the law guardian doesn't want to travel to the other county,there was 3 already the courts and that joke of a thing they say''best interest of the child''how can I get these people (cps,law guardians off there ash) I as a father am busting my hump to protect my child,a 6 yr old girl has post traumatic stress nys is failing my daughter... I have a lawyer (assigned) I can't afford a lawyer I can't find any advocates in nys to protect my child,any advice links help etc would be appreciated thank you

You have Court-assigned counsel and that person should be representing you, advising you of the various aspects of your case. Request a law guardian to be appointed in the "other" County, reporting to "your" Country. Happens all the time.

It appears that the Court HAS done something. The Court is requiring that the visits be supervised. If the mother is able to remain sane and sober for the visitation the Court will not deny all visitation.

What do YOU want the Court to do? Tell me what you are expecting and I'll tell you if it's realistic.

I'm in NY.

Wow thank you so much for your response,my case is going on up in dutchess county ,I am not a professional anything but I can tell you when a person is lying and being manipulated ,the family court ordered my daughters mother have monitored phone calls well,that isn't being enforced,I can tell you my 7 year old daughter (just turned 7)is scared,intimidated,etc her mother is alienating her from me and using what is called hostile aggressive parenting, the law guardian hasn't been in her life since October and my child was removed in September,2010... there isn't any parent referee no one to make sure her mother isn't violating her rights or discussing any business in frot of her,meaning court stuff or bad mouthing me I also fear sibling alienation all my attempts to make my concerns know are being ignored my only step is to write to the state commissh of social services they say 'best interest of the child'and the bs excuses and fairy tales told to the judge are crazy my ex got arrested last month for heroin possession court just brushed that off,also for petit larceny unreal,so my big question would be how do I get these people to do there job yes they are over whelmed with cases but I as a father am overwhelmed trying to protect my daughter a lot of fathers would be relaxed I can't I called from manhattan to rhinebeck trying to find someone to advocate for my daughter all I got was rejection my daughters demeanor has changed 1000% towards me,the mother calls when it is my time,the step father is also a junky the mother abused heroin while pregnant just gave birth last month that kid was taken she is in denial lives in a fantasy and on record is mentally unstable,so they ''ordered her'' to go to therapy, sorry for the 3000 page letter but I'm desperate my lawyer isn't out spoken but in the office he is in the court he is like a new born puppy dog,again I thank you and appreciate any advice help links hook ups what ever,:)

Why don't you have full custody of your daughter at this point? Another thing and gather up some money is to have a parental evaluation done. After you apply for full custody. The only real way to protect your daughter is to remove her from the situation.

The reason I do not have custody is because when cps came and took my daughter,was cps asked where is the father? Ex replied her new husband is dad and there isn't anyone else that can take her,so ex said her husbands aunt and uncle can take her,they did good people but they are protecting mother and step father to the end,so they and I agreed to keep my daughter in school until June because it wouldn't be fair to take her out of school so I agreed mother is only allowed to see kids an hour a week,they get the entire day we had our first permanency plan and the ''court referee'' was a real idiot she was new to this family court heard the bs from the mothers side,she was offering her bus passes I said to my lawyer why doesn't she just give out hugs,so sad when we can forget about the abuse a child has taken and grant everything to the junky abusers,I will take your advice and look into it thank you very much

Hello,well case update is we filed for custody of my daughter,it will be granted,now the mother.has stated to my child ''if you go with your dad'' you will no longer see me she the mother is trying to play on the emotions and blackmail the child,the lg is very well aware of this now... can I file an order of protection against the mother since lg lawyer cps not doing anything"? They said to me don't do anything because it is making you look nuts,unreal but have to love the ''best interest of the child'i as a father have to protect this 7 yr old angel.by all meanslast judge made an order saying'all phone calls must be monitored from mother to child and that isn't happening,thanks

Hello,well case update is we filed for custody of my daughter,it will be granted,now the mother.has stated to my child ''if you go with your dad'' you will no longer see me she the mother is trying to play on the emotions and blackmail the child,the lg is very well aware of this now... can I file an order of protection against the mother since lg lawyer cps not doing anything"? They said to me don't do anything because it is making you look nuts,unreal but have to love the ''best interest of the child'i as a father have to protect this 7 yr old angel.by all meanslast judge made an order saying'all phone calls must be monitored from mother to child and that isn't happening,thanks

Mother is in drug rehab... which she didn't volunteer to do this abuse needs to stop...

OK so my daughters mom was forced into drug rehab,phone calls from mother to child were suppose to be supervised but are not,now mother is telling 7 yr old child,if you go with your dad you will not see me any more and scaring her and trying to blackmail her and playing on her emotions,I need to protect this child, my child is in the care of non family members because when she was taken by cps because mother was abusing her and drugs,she the mother told cps I wasn't in her life now I am getting full custody in June I left her in the care of these people so the child could finish her schooling, these people are the family of the step dad,but they refuse to obey a judges order by monitoring phone calls to child from ''mother. So now can I get order of protection? violation? And are the child's bill of rights different from state to state? I am in New York State (Dutchess County)

Thank you for the update. You can file for modification based on conduct. Orders like that are written all the time. Did you get full custody of your child now?

If they aren't monitoring yet have the responsibility to do so then you can hold them in contempt. But school is almost over and it might be best to wait it out until the child is in your hands and that way you will have control over the situation.

True,I am just not letting the mother get away with anything,she thinks she has the power to control a 7 yr old child,so I need to cover all my corners legally.Thank You For Responding.

I'm in and out of Court in NY all the time. Honestly, I think you need to rant less and present the facts clearly and succinctly. If no one is listening to you there's a reason.

Law guardians are hand selected and well supervised. They know what they are doing.

If the phone calls were ordered monitored and they are not, then go back to Court and argue that the mother is in contempt.

You say "we" got custody. Who is "we"?

Meant I not we,I only rant when no one brings up valid points such as facts.I don't know if law guardinas know what they are doing because in my case there has been 3,and the child was only seen for 15 minutes maybe because child is out of county,I rant to protect my child they are more interested in helping a drug addict,I tried to argue about the phone calls being monitored they look at me like I'm speaking a foreign language but I fight every day for a little girl.

Fighting on behalf of your child is one thing. Getting so angry that no one can figure out what you are talking about is something else. I think you are hurting yourself.

No I am good,I don't get angry anymore,I was granted custody but I won't get her till school is out,my only concern is that the mother has said to the child that I will not let her see her mother or anyone else in the family if I get her making the kid depressed etc,I have the child in counseling, the lg is aware of what the mother has said,it isn't right that the mother play on the child's emotions,

Yes I was granted custody but won't get her till the end of the school year (june 24) but in the mean time the mother is saying things to the child and the lg and cps workers are aware of this.so I am just trying to see what I can do to prevent this.