I recently started working at a supermarket. Everyone is super nice for the most part, but at the same time if people aren't familiar with you, they'll keep to themselves. Around the time that I started I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years and I told myself I wouldn't get attached or get into anything for a while. 4-5 months down the line and I'm in a bit better shape and the relationships at work have evolved a bit.

One girl at the supermarket who I've come to notice more so than the others is a cashier who approached me first. She appeared in my department one day and just started talking to me. I was sort of thrown aback and didn't say much. She hung around for a bit, seemingly looking for a conversation but when none came she said "Seeya" and left. Since then, I've seen her a few more times and she's stopped to talk and I've done my best to maintain a brief conversation but being that we work in a busy supermarket talks on the floor are always brief and usually done in passing.

The other day however was odd. I was on my lunch break buying a snack and her line was shortest so I stood behind the guy she was ringing up. She saw me, looked up and give a real sly and coy wink. I gave her a nod of acknowledgement and a slight smirk. When she started ringing me up, she asked about what I was buying. Immediately we shared a love for falafel and she told me of a great place nearby. I went up to the break room and about 5 minutes after I walked in she strolls in with some tea and a bottle of water. She sees that I'm talking to someone already so she leaves for a little while and comes back. She's pretty quiet... but gazes in my direction as though she's looking for conversation, yet again. I ended up taking a longer lunch than I had intended because I didn't really want to leave her there in the break room in silence. But I had to go and as I was leaving, her eyes followed me to the door and I said bye and she looked kind of bummed and said bye. Kind of a fail all around when I think back to all the missed opportunities to ask her about herself and potentially out. Something else odd, I went into work on my day off to buy some groceries and she walked by on her way to clock out and said "Hey! You're not working today!" And immediately I thought, "How does she know that?" Everyone else that saw me when I walked in asked if I was working, but she knew I wasn't. Makes me think she's checking up on when I work. I've double checked with a friend and they said that this girl doesn't usually wink. I don't know what to make of it.

Most recently I gave her a nickname and she gave me one and then at the end of the work day she came over and started talking to me about her goals. And then I helped her pick out some seeds for a garden she wants to start and we talked for about 15 minutes. I'm really into this girl but I guess before I make a move I just want to see a few more concrete signs that she may be interested and that it's not just in my head.
But what do you all think?

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I guess before I make a move I just want to see a few more concrete signs that she may be interested and that it's not just in my head.

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It's not in your head.

Ask her out if you want. Stop "thinking" about asking her out as if it were some scary risky thing. Just ask her to something that sounds like something you are both interested in based on your conversations so far. Don't make a big deal out of it. You're friends, and if she says "yes" then you'll be "friends going out together".

I'm just saying stop "evaluating" this and just be her friend, go out if you can, and when it's time for you two to be more than friends, you will be. Go with that, too. Don't over think that either. Just take care of her and be thoughtful of her, first as a friend, then later as more. That's all you need to do.

Here's what the next few days looked like after more observation.

It started with a wink, now there are lunch breaks where we just happen to run into each other and the other day her shift was supposed to be 7:30-4pm but she closed and when I asked her about the change she avoided the question after some brief hesitation. The other day I helped her pick out some seeds to plant in a garden she wanted to start but the next day she told me she didn't buy any of them. Seems to me like she just wanted to be near me for a bit and talk. The end of the following day she wanted to look at the seeds again. When I told her I knew nothing about seeds she asked me to help her pick out a bunch anyway. After about 15 minutes I said I had to go and put the strawberries away and she quickly said, "I was gonna buy some strawberries too!" She looked at me like she was trying to imply something with her behavior. She didn't any strawberries but instead laughed at a joke I made.

At this point I think I'm pretty aware of what's happening. But something I've noticed that's making my next move difficult is that she seems to talk endlessly. I can't tell if this is her or if she's nervous. Her attention also seems to be everywhere. She could talking to me but if someone comes around, her attention is shifted. I don't know how to respond to that. I haven't dated in 5 months and my last relationship lasted 3 years.

She's an attractive girl, but I feel like we're pretty opposite. I could try it out anyway for the experience, but I'm always cautious about these things. Someone told me she smokes and drinks, but when I asked her about it, she said she was 1 month clean and attempting to quit. The girl who told me this was another coworker who likes me but who I don't like back. I guess right now I'm just going along with it and trying to match her enthusiasm.