So here's the deal. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years now. I'm 17 and he's 18, of the same year I just have a late birthday. We've been together since I was in 8th grade and have recently taken a break. During the end of the break he began seeing someone and because I thought I was over him I would say I didn't care but in the end I did and eventually won him back even though he wanted to be with me all along (due to non-stop texting , i.m's and calls to see him). In the end recently since we've been together, it has been on and off with us. He seems to still have a single mentality when he's out and doing his own thing and I can no longer trust him the same way I once used too. Yes I know a relationship is nothing without trust but its been so long to throw it away I was hoping to build it back as he says he's trying. But recently he has messgaed this female on fb and I approached him about it and his words are "That's my homegirl" I simply didn't and still don't believe it but I feel like I'm tired of repeating myself to someone who doesn't want to change or listen but he keeps saying he loves me and that he's not lying and of course the whole nine yards. But in the end, I'm the one crying and being hurt and sometimes find myself wondering if I shoulf stay or go ?

I suspect you mean't 3 years not 3 months.

It seems you got him back but just not all of him, and his taste of new found freedom was good to him. Maybe its time for you both to explore your lives without each other because things have obviously changed, especially you, since he seemed to have moved rather fast when you let him go. That throws you off I bet.

How do you know what he does when he is out?

Have you ever been jealous of his female friends before?

Did this break up make you insecure a bit?

This is the time you're supposed to be dating lots of different people and finding out what you like and don't like and what guys are made of (Larry can't kiss and breathe at the same time, Ken falls asleep during the movie, Gerry has to check out every girl he sees, all Bob can talk about is cars and football, and Mike is terminally polite).

Why stay and be continually miserable? You're too young to settle down. There's a whole wide world out there.

My apoligies. 3 long years!
Indeed. I feel like I'm holding on to the old him as I've matured and he has in the slightest ways. Exploring is what I'm afraid of because I'm so used to being with him and I'm so comfortable with him so it's a bit hard for me to just let go of that.
-On that note, I don't exactly. Except from what he tells me & he generally does. If I ever suspect something, I am rather straight up about it and he'll know what's on my mind. His thing is if we fight over something like that, he'll go to my best friend and tell her his side and add on that he'll never find nobody else like me and that he loves me and blah blah then I have her in my ear and it's such a sticky situation but in the end I know my needs come first, I know just don't know if I really want to go or stick it out .
-In all honesty no just because we never had these problems. I can say he has really ruined me for any male in the future.
-Not really, just more independent.