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Help me with my vindictive ex... She's CRAZY

Hi my ex and I were together for ten years from 2001 to 2009 in which period we had two children who are now 5 and 2 our eldest sufering from autism. When we separated she was extremely nasty vindictive and erratic and said really nasty stuff about me pubically oin Facebook constantly stalking my home harassing friends and family etc after about 7 months of being sepaated we became on speaking temrs and decided to give it a second shot. I ended my lease @ my property and agreed to move in with her and reconcile well... after a very short period we split up again and now after lying to the police in a sworn affidavit saying I am abusive and vioilent toward her and our two children mentally ill and drug addicted alll of which I am not the court granted her an avo against me from seeing her or my two children I went to court to argue that the avo should not be in place against my children and me but that I was wuilling to have it in place against her seeing or contacting me and vice versa I was totally ignored by the court and her avo was granted. Sdhe repeatedly breeches conditions of the avo contacting me and harassing me at all hours I have documented proof of this and have been to the police to show them this but they say that there's nothing they can do for me.

This is doing my head in and I don't know what I should do everything I try to do always presents me a dead-end it seems she is lying and winning and although I have proof of the real truth I have not a leg to stand on HELP ME HELP ME HELP ME SOMEONE PLEASE IS THERE A SUPPORT GROUP OR SOMETHING I Don't KNW ABOUT THAT CAN PLEASE HELP ME

Have you been in touch with a solicitor/lawyer?

There is also a legal advice forum on this website with experienced experts ready to give they're input that may help you with that side of your problems, I suggest you use that forum also and this one for emotional help. :)

I can't afford a private slolicitor I have an appt with a legal aid rep to give me legal advice but that is not until April and they provide no legal representation

Post your question in the legal section also stating where you live and you should be able to get some good advice.

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Originally Posted by gazzduck

i can't afford a private slolicitor i have an appt with a legal aid rep to give me legal advice but that is not til april and they provide no legal representation

You will have to beg or borrow the money for a solicitor, gazz. It is the only way you are going to get a leg up with this problem. Legal Aid is the bottom rung; the advice they give is never really any good and what can you do with it anyway?

Tick

{moved to Family Law}

Go to another country and if u love the children so much take them with u that's the best way to forget about it all and start a 2nd life

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Originally Posted by Cute_Girl_4_Eva

go to another country and if u love the children so much take them with u thats the best way to forget about it all and start a 2nd life

What you are suggesting is against the law. It's called Parental Kidnapping.

This is one reason children like you should not be responding in the legal sections of the forum.

P.S. Site rules require the use of complete words and sentences. Chat/text speak is prohibited and, as such, all posts may be removed should this continue.

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Originally Posted by Cute_Girl_4_Eva

go to another country and if u love the children so much take them with u thats the best way to forget about it all and start a 2nd life

This is a legal forum, not a chat site. This is the third time I've asked you NOT to use text speak. At some point your posts are simply going to be removed.

Your advice is illegal. That aside, why don't you explain how this person is going to simply go to another Country with the children? I'd be interested in knowing how YOU think this can happen.

I don't understand how you have PROOF which is being ignored and she has MADE UP PROOF which is being heard.

Can you give an example or two of what she is alleging and what you can PROVE is false?

We can't possibly know just how crazy and vindictive she is, or what proof you have that she is lying.
We can't possibly know that you are an ideal father.
(You did get back together with her after all her craziness, so a lot of your credibility is lost.)

Granted, parents get shafted in court all the time.
One reason: no lawyer.

As for skipping the country, of course it's illegal, but I know a woman whose ex took their child to Europe, never to be seen again. (Supposedly a small town who conspired in it's entirety to pretend the child wasn't there.)

"Joy," was this some time ago? Did the child have a passport? Now you can't even get on an airplane with a child without permission from the other parent.

First ANY question on law needs to include your general locale as laws vary by area. For example, I'm not clear what an "avo" is. It sounds like what we in the US call a restraining order or order of protection.

But I have to point out there are two sides to any story. If there is no evidence to support this avo why are the courts granting it?

Avo is 'apprehended violence order' not sure UK or Australia.

Tick

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

first ANY question on law needs to include your general locale as laws vary by area. For example, I'm not clear what an "avo" is. It sounds like what we in the US call a restraining order or order of protection.

But I have to point out there are two sides to any story. If there is no evidence to support this avo why are the courts granting it?

See my post, #11 -

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Originally Posted by tickle

avo is 'apprehended violence order' not sure UK or Australia.

tick

Ausralian I think,can't find any such thing here in the UK.

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Originally Posted by gazzduck

... i was wuilling to have it in place against her seeing or contacting me and vice versa ...
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That was a mistake. By saying that, you implied that you had in fact been guilty of what she was claiming you had done.

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Originally Posted by gazzduck

... ... sdhe repeatedly breeches conditions of the avo contacting me and harassing me at all hours i have documented proof of this and have been to the police to show them this but they say that theres nothing they can do for me.
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Go back to court, prove what she has been doing, and ask to have the AVO lifted because she is ignoring it.

And at the same time, file a separate petition seeking visitation with your children.

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Originally Posted by amicon

Ausralian I think,can't find any such thing here in the UK.

Australia. An AVO is mentioned here.

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Originally Posted by amicon

Ausralian I think,can't find any such thing here in the UK.

Why not let the OP answer for himself?