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Please tell me what I'm supposed to do..

I started dating this guy on August 25th.. he had asked me out... he ended up getting put in jail in the middle of September.. I waited all of this time for him to get out... he called me 5 times while he was in there and we wrote each other once... the last time I talked to him on the phone while he was in there I had asked him if we were still ganna be together when he got out... he said why would you even ask that... of course... well now he's out... he didn't even call when he got out.. I found out from his friend that he was out.. so I talked to him that night and he talked to me for a little bit and then told me that he would call me back either later that night or the next day.. he never did.. and I can't get awhold of him... his house phone and his cell phone is disconnected and I don't know what to do... im sure that he couldve found a way too call me these past 3 days and I'm tired of waiting.. ive already waited 4 months for him... so what am I supposed to do?::(

My question is why would you even wait for him the first time?? Doesn't sound like that great of a catch if he went to jail just a few weeks after meeting him.

Magen,

Do you really want to have a permanent relationship with someone who has been in jail?

Do you have such a low self-esteem that you think you can get no one better?

Please move on and find someone who is better than this.

Well, of course we don't know what he was in jail for, so we really cannot make any assumptions.

Throw all the garbage to the waist side.

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I started dating this guy on August 25th..he had asked me out...he ended up getting put in jail in the middle of september..

August 25 to middle of September? We’re talking 3 weeks? You honestly waited over 4 months for a guy that went to jail that you knew for 3 weeks. Huh?

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i waited all of this time for him to get out...he called me 5 times while he was in there and we wrote eachother once...

You mean when he was bored and had nothing to do or no place to go because it was jail?

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the last time i talked to him on the phone while he was in there i had asked him if we were still ganna be together when he got out...he said why would you even ask that ...of course...

Of course. I mean if you can’t trust a guy you went out with for 3 weeks before he went to jail then who can you trust?

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well now hes out...he didnt even call when he got out..i found out from his friend that he was out..so i talked to him that night and he talked to me for a little bit and then told me that he would call me back either later that night or the next day..he never did..and i can't get awhold of him...his house phone and his cell phone is disconnected and i dont know what to do

You mean his phones have been disconnected because he’s

A. Irresponsible.
B. Has not the financial means to pay them.
C. On the run.
D. All of the above.

My money’s on D.

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Originally Posted by Magen_Marie15

...im sure that he couldve found a way too call me these past 3 days

Yes he could have.

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and im tired of waiting ..ive already waited 4 months for him...so what am i supposed to do?::(

Be happy that a loser like that is not apart of your life. That person literally has no value in himself, so what kind of value can he offer you? He’ll show up again when he needs a place to hide, crash, or bail money.
I’d rather be alone than to be with someone like that, that will bring you down.

Magan, my dear you are probably young and I’m going to guess this was the first guy that came along and paid attention to you. I’m here to tell you that is not your type. That is not anybody’s type. Any man that comes alone and will not bring value to your life is not a man worth getting involved with. If he has self destructive behavior then he will transfer that behavior to you. You can not bring some else up, they can only bring you down. Don’t even try.

Some guys ( not all of them) , but some can be such jerks I agree with the earlier comment that we cannot make assumptions on what he went to jail for .The guy is a jerk , you waited for him so long that he is bored, needs new action he sounds the type so love them & leave them sort of guy.

When he came out , he must have thought you were getting to "clingy"or that Megan you can do better... maybe you do have feelings for him but would you really want a guy that says he'd call and never returns your call ?All the effort that you made was or is wasted because he is properly looking for his next "conquer"

Aplogies for the harshness but it is true.I have met the type like him before and trust me when I say that amost 99% of the time once an jerk alsways a jerk .

Please move on from this guy , he obviously has no interest if he isn't calling you back or making the effort to see you .Find a guy that is god for you and treats you right , that makes you feel happeier than feeling like crap.

Yourself confidence may be low just now because you think" what have i done to him?" How can I be better for him?" Move on and see how truly beautiful a person you can be " Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" (both inside and out)

Good luck Megan.

Take the hint that he doesn't want to contact you so instead of worrying about a jailbird, how about looking in the mirror and tell the person you see that they can do better and deserve better.

It does not matter what he was in jail for. It does not even matter that he went to jail. What does matter is that he did not call you when he got out and does not call you now. He is not going to call you unless he needs something. I think I would thank my guardian angel for keeping him away from me and find someone who truly likes me.
If he is not calling you and not even telling you how to get ahold of him, do not humiliate yourself by continuing to try to contact him. I do not want to hurt your feelings, but it sounds as though he does not want to see you. I would imagine he is the sort that has several girls here and there. Good luck, you do not deserve to be treated like that.

You don't know how lucky you are that you can't find him. Don't. Look for his complete and total opposite!