Right I've been with this lad for 1 year and half and before I got with him I was seeing another lad who was 5 years older than me , my mom wasn't okay with it so we had to end it but we really didn't want to because it was going so well. Anyway now, 1 year and 6 months into a relationship , I still think about the lad I was seeing , I spoke to him not long ago and I know he feel the same about me... but I love the lad I'm with and I respect him... arghhhh I don't know what to do... HELP!!

How old are you?

If you think you have feelings for two people you'd be best off being with neither.

You seem to be very confused. What is it about the current guy that you dislike so much you want to get back with the other old "lad".

----> If you Love the current guy, you wouldn't want someone else. If you loved the other guy, you wouldn't very well be with the current one. This is the dilemma. . What I predict is that you will hurt the guy you are currently with, and grow tired of the other guy after some time. The assumption I am making is that you get "bored" after the initial "honeymoon" period of a relationship (which you most likley confuse for love).


Requesting an Age seems appropriate for this question? Especially if you've been with the guy for a while. Question: At any point were you seeing them both at the same time?

Exploring other romantic options behind someone's back is, the same as being a lying cheater. So I advise you to stay out of those situations where feelings, possibilities, and curiosity get stirred up so easily. That always leads to intense feelings, and confusing thought.

Its human to like many at the same time, but we can't always control our feelings, but we can control our actions. Just stay within the boundaries of good behavior, and you won't have to answer for bad behavior.

If you respect your boyfriend, and yourself, then do the right thing for you both. When confused, then ask yourself how you would want to be treated if things were reversed, and act accordingly.