Should my boyfriend spend time with my kids?
I just got divorced recently. Before it was finalized I was already seeing a new guy. This new guy met my three kids a couple of times. Both him and I went through a lot because of my emotional roller coaster before my divorce. Even though he hasn't told me that he loves me, my gut tells me that he does. I've met his family but they don't exactly approve of me after they found out I'm divorced and have three kids. The guy I'm seeing is single, never had kids, and has a very stable career. My boyfriend told me that it doesn't matter what his family thinks of me, I haven't done anything wrong to them and it's ultimately up to him to make a decision about me. Recently we have gotten into a lot of fights and almost break it off. In a few days of not seeing me, he realized how caring and nice I am and wanted to make it work with me. I think that he's very close to saying he loves me. Right now, my career, housing, job, everything is unknown and up in the air for me. Hearing him say that he loves me now will make me feel at least more stable in one area of my life. What confuses me about him is not really enthusiastic about spending time with my kids. One of my friend suggested for us to be strong as a couple first before having him spend more time with my kids. Any suggestions?
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Thanks for your input. I admire you for what you've accomplished. I am committed to building my own career, buying a house, and relying on myself. It is very hard but I'm in the process. I believe that things will fall into place in time. I can't rush it, I just have to remind myself that my priority right now is take care of my kids, and establish career so that I can have money to support myself and my kids. Congratulations on your engagement and best of luck!